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podcast show notes | episode 003 | whistle while you work through the tough stuff

This blog post serves as SHOW NOTES for our podcast — Cultivate a Good Life. This is not a comprehensive outline of everything discussed in this specific episode. The notes, links, and tips below are just some of what was mentioned. Everything we’re highlighting here will certainly make so much more sense when you’ve listened to this episode. If you haven’t already listened, you definitely should. And you should also just go ahead and subscribe to the podcast. It’s good stuff. Also, these notes show up in the order that they came up during the show.

episode description

Trials. Challenges. Crappy times. Whatever you want to call them … we all have them. And it’s HARD. We’ve each seen our fair share of trying experiences, and Becky and I share how we’ve gotten through with positivity and gratitude instead of hating life and being miserable. It’s possible — we promise.

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Quote by Patricia T. Holland found in her talk, One Thing Needful:

“If I were Satan and wanted to destroy a society, I think I would stage a full-blown blitz on women. I would keep them so distraught and distracted that they would never find the calming strength and serenity for which their sex has always been known. Satan has effectively done that, catching us in the crunch of trying to be superhuman instead of striving to reach our unique, God-given potential within such diversity. We must have the courage to be imperfect while striving for perfection.”

Tips for getting through the tough stuff with positivity & gratitude (keeping in mind these are just bullet points and much better explained in the episode, and not all of the takeaways and tips are included here):

  • Find peace through prayer.
  • Get dressed.
  • Allow people to serve you.
  • Fight like hell.
  • If you’re going to play the “what if” game, you need to play it all the way through.
  • Be open so that others can better connect with you through your trial.
  • Do not compare your trial or experience to anyone else’s.
  • Let go of your expectations of control and realize you likely cannot control this trial.
  • Take your experience and pay it forward.

Life preserver quote by Ronald A. Rasband in October 2012:

“If you come upon a person who is drowning, would you ask if they need help — or would it be better to just jump in and save them from the deepening waters? The offer, while well meaning and often given, ‘Let me know if I can help’ is really no help at all.” 

A couple of Becky Proudfit’s “radiation sunrise” pictures.

During treatment — The good, the bad, the ugly. Except that Becky can’t be ugly if she TRIED … seriously.

Becky & her family as they celebrated her completion of radiation.

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  1. Oct. 23 from 10-12. It’s our BH Birthday / Podcast Launch Party at SodaRush in Gilbert, AZ! My team will be there, too!
  2. Nov. 9-10 is the Pinners Conference in Scottsdale, AZ. We’ll have a booth there for selling merchandise and visiting with anyone that comes by, and I’ll also be teaching a couple classes.
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2 Responses

  1. Bonnie says:

    This was a very powerful podcast. One thing you touched on was you don’t know what is going on in someone’s life when they are having a bad day or not feeling well. I have a friend that had been getting “testy” or was not quite herself. I was starting to get frustrated and having trouble being her friend. We later learned (her as well) she had cancer. I then felt like a terrible friend. I felt selfish and disappointed in myself for not being a better friend. You are absolutely correct in always being nice and reaching out to see if there is something wrong and can you help.
    Second thing is the hoping your family can handle LIFE if you are unable to. I believe that if you are a strong person and take good care of your family they learn from that and in turn will know what to do if you cannot.
    I do not have iTunes to respond that way. Love the Podcast so far can’t wait to keep listening.

  2. Doreen Blanding says:

    Just listened to you episode on cancer. I too have cancer. I have non Hodgkin lymphoma. Like Becky P, this wasn’t even on the list of things I thought was wrong with me. One thing I feel you missed is the grieving one does with a trial like this. You grieve for the person you thought you would be but won’t. You grieve for the family you thought you might be but won’t.
    I had a bishop speak about the day his son was fishy with autism; he sat down and sob as he realized the hopes and dreams he had for his son (mission, marriage, grandchildren etc) were over. Once he grieved the “death” of that son he was able to see his new son.
    I too had to grieve the old Doreen and the old family. I sobbed! It was one more pile on a heap of trials. My sister passed in 2007, my mom in 2008 and in 2009 I found out I had cancer. Then about a week later my father in law died on my birthday.
    I had to grieve the lost life I had planned. It wasn’t easy but it was necessary for me to move on. And it wasn’t just a day long process; I think I’m still grieving.
    I remember the first Christmas after diagnosis; was this the final time I put up the tree? bake cookies? wrap a present? I seriously thought if I didn’t do any of that stuff that I could stop time and never have “a last” (insert activity/holiday/event). I still think that but I push it aside and remember that everything might be the last, but tomorrow is a first time. I still grieve the old Doreen but I also celebrate the new Doreen. I now take each day as a gift and try to make it the best for me and those around me because I’m not cured, just in remission.