we noticed – a mother’s journal
I remember sometime before we had our first child, dreaming about being the kind of mother who keeps a regular journal for each child. Aaaaand … that didn’t really happen. But I’m a scrapbooker. And for sure I’m a documenter. And I do plenty of journaling in those scrapbooks. So I’ve never viewed this as a “fail” – but rather a realization of the type of documenter that I am.
My favorite stories are the ones told with photographs.
And yet still … I have had this unrealistic desire to keep up with actual journals for each of the kids. Every day I could write paragraph after paragraph to each child. But reality is – there are a thousand other things that have to be done in any given day. One thing I notice as a mother is how easy it is to get caught up in the rigor of the day-to-day and sometimes let the most meaningful things slide.
I had a bit of an a-ha moment a few months ago that led me to the idea of how to actually keep up with a journal for each of our kids after all. They key? Simplify. Instead of viewing these as traditional journals with lots of streaming thoughts … the idea that came to me is that I would simply write ONE thing we noticed about that child each day. One thing. That’s all. Not a few paragraphs. Just one thing.
I call these our “We Noticed” journals.
And so I started. On January 1st this year.
Because my angle is absolute simplicity, this New Year’s resolution has been attainable. Doable. And extremely meaningful. It’s so much more than just writing something I noticed about each child each day. This very brief activity that has become a part of my nightly routine drives me to make a more conscientious effort to notice the little things about the greatest gifts we have – our children. I feel that photography achieves that goal similarly, and I do take pictures every single day. But this writing activity allows me to describe with words something about their personality, demeanor, character … that isn’t always easy to capture with a snapshot.
These are not some sort of secret journals that I plan to surprise the kids with when they’re 18. Porter, Claire, and Crew are aware of the journals – and that is intentional on my part. They know that at the end of each day I ponder about (and sometimes discuss with David) the little things they each said or did. And then I write it down. Once in a while they read through their own journal or have me read aloud to them. The content? Sometimes serious. Sometimes funny. Sometimes it’s a direct quote that they said that day. And once in a while … I want David to be the one who writes in the journals.
What a boost for children, right? I’m a firm believer that this is absolutely affirming for our kids.
So – the journals I chose? They’re designed by Greenroom and I picked them up at Target (where I tend to pick up all of my notebooks). Blue for Porter. Pink for Claire. Orange for Crew.
So how about that fancy label, right? Yep – I just printed their name with the “We noticed” title and … slapped it on the front of the notebook with a piece of packing tape. Done.
My philosophy with scrapbooking (as you know) – is that I can keep up with it … IF it’s SIMPLE. (Enter Project Life®.) Same goes for keeping these journals for my kids. In my world …
Simple = Done
A couple months into this goal and I’m going strong. Every day is the goal – the ideal. But do I miss a day or two here or there? Yep – sure do. I’m not aiming for perfection. I’m aiming for another way to connect with our children and strengthen our family bonds. I’m aiming to cultivate a good life by the little ways I choose to spend my time. I have a thousand ways to improve and I make a thousand mistakes everyday … but it’s the little stuff that adds up. And I’m trying.
PS – This idea is certainly applicable in other relationships besides parent-child. Have insight or additional ideas on this topic to share? Have a great source for awesome notebooks and journals? I’d love to hear.
At Home with Becky
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