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share your love for the swapp family

Part of cultivating a good life is mourning with those that mourn.

I’m not sure I will ever forget the moment I learned the news. So many of us have felt shock and sadness over what has happened to the Swapp family in these past few days. Heidi and Eric Swapp’s 16-year-old son Cory (that handsome kid behind her left shoulder in this picture) passed away very unexpectedly… and there are almost no words.

[ obituary ]

Except, sometimes, I believe that words can mean something. Words of comfort and love and hope and support. Which is why we wanted to put something together for the Swapp family that may, in even the very smallest way, bring comfort over the coming weeks, months, and years. Nothing can take away the sting and the sorrow that they must be feeling, but to know that they are so very loved is indeed a help to Heidi and her family during this very tender time.

In Heidi’s own words: “I don’t know how my heart can be so broken, and yet so full. The last couple of days have been the saddest of my whole life. I don’t know how I can possibly thank you ALL for the TREMENDOUS OUTPOURING of LOVE, and hope and faith and compassion for me and my family. I could not be more grateful. It’s so humbling. I could’t possibly respond to all the messages – but I have read them, and I have been touched, and strengthened. In this darkest difficult time, I do have HOPE in my Savior. I trust. We feel the LOVE for sure. Life is so precious. This boy was loved so deeply by so many. Again, I thank you humbly.”

At Cory’s viewing and funeral this week, we are putting 4×4 cards out for loved ones to write messages to the Swapp family and then we’ll compile these into an 8×8 album (or however many albums we fill). But instead of limiting this “group hug” to just those in attendance, we wanted anyone, anywhere to have the opportunity to contribute to this. The idea is that the Swapps will have something tangible to hold in their hands. Something they can flip through as they read messages upon messages of encouragement and love from family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, and even strangers. Basically anyone and everyone who wants to express their condolences.

what you can do

1. Write your message on a 4″ x 4″ card or piece of paper. Share a quote or scripture or message of hope / encouragement / faith / whatever you feel in your heart to share. Be sure to include your name somewhere on the card and even your city and state/country if you’d like.

2. Mail this 4×4 card, as soon as you are able, to:

Becky Higgins LLC

8514 W. Deer Valley Rd.

Suite 110

Peoria, AZ  85382

Simple as that! We will combine all of the cards we receive at our office with those that are from the viewing and funeral this week. We will certainly allow time for your cards to arrive over the next couple weeks, and we know some of you will be sending them from outside the U.S. We will give the 8×8 album(s) to the Swapp family to keep forever, with a prayer that these messages will bring some bit of comfort to each one of them.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for participating and contributing. This community is incredible. I know so many of you admire and adore Heidi. I love her dearly. We had an instant connection when we met so many years ago and we’ve enjoyed collaborating in our creative work with product development, but more importantly — she is a woman with a heart of gold. She’s the real deal. A wonderful wife and mother and friend. And a beautiful example to me. I know in my heart of hearts that Heidi’s faith in Jesus Christ is very much significant in what will carry her through this deepest trial. I share that faith as well and am so grateful for the knowledge that families can be together eternally. Death is not the end.


49 Responses

  1. Mine is written and will be sent from Australia tomorrow. What a beautiful idea Becky and co. xxxxxxx

  2. mireia says:

    Hi! Our condolences from Spain. The mail here is very difficult and we thought to send our and the cards from our collegues together, but could be arriving next week..is possible?? For sure there be a lot of spanish people that would be participating

  3. Anita Haines says:

    My heart hurts so deeply for Heidi and her family. Our small farming community is still mourning the loss of two teens this past school year. It’s such a devasting loss and leaves so many feeling helpless. I love that you’ve found a way for all of us to reach out to them. Thank you for organizing this act of love and kindness and allowing us to share in it.

  4. Debbie says:

    Thank you for ncluding us in this beautiful gesture of friendship and love to Heidi and her family. Our hearts are broken and sadness knowing another’s loss. Much love to our wonderful friend! WE LOVE YOU HEIDI

  5. Thanks for sharing this, Becky. I have signed the online condolences list but doubt I will be able to get a card to you in time for inclusion in the albums. What a lovely thought, though, I am sure that Heidi and her family will be very touched.
    Thinking of them all at this difficult time. I wish we had an answer to the question of why do bad things happen to good people. Love to you all.

  6. Bonita Rose says:

    sending this week. My heart aches for them.

  7. Xiogmara says:

    Se que la pérdida de un ser querido es terrible, pero tratándose de nuestros hijos es peor, pero el tiempo, y dios derramara en tu familia todo el amor y fortaleza para poder llevar esta terrible pérdida, Mi querida Heidi te mando todo mi cariño, mi amor, mis oraciones, un gran abrazo y mis condolencias, ánimo hermosa tienes otra lucha con los demás y tus hijos y familiares te necesitan.

  8. Angie Hall says:

    Been thinking about the Swapps all weekend. Praying for them, and thanking God that Becky is spearheading such a loving community-wide response. Oh, God, please wrap this family in Your love and grace. Whisper to them daily that they will someday be reunited with their beautiful son.

  9. Monja says:

    My heart just hurts for her and her family. Don’t know what to say, it just hurts…

  10. Laura Davis says:

    Thank you Becky,
    having gone on a scrapbook cruise with both you and Heidi back in 2006 , I felt like we had a connection. I wanted to let her know my heart breaks for her and the family. I am sending my card today.


  11. Rachel Figueroa says:

    Even though your heart is heavy with sadness from your great loss may the memories of your beautiful son fill you with some peace! So sorry for your loss!

  12. Teresa says:

    Mis más sinceras condolencias para Heidi y su familia, debido a los duros momentos que están viviendo. Un abrazo muy fuerte para todos.

  13. I am sending my condolences card tonight from Canada. My heart goes out to this beautiful family and I have kept them in my prayers. As a mom, I cannot imagine and I want to reach out and give my heart.

    Thank you for organizing this so that we can somehow give her strength somehow.

    Cropper’s Time Zone
    (a networking FB page for crafters)

  14. Beatrice Hale says:

    My condolences to the Swapp family! After a loss it is very hard and my thoughts are with you. As a Mom also I cannot even begin to imagine what it is like. I am reaching out and will get a 4 x 4 card out tonight.

    Bea Hale

  15. Kristina says:

    Beautifully written and what a beautiful treasure you are helping to create for the family. I will definitely send in a card. Thank you for YOUR beautiful heart too, friend. Continuing to pray for the Swapp family.

  16. What a beautiful idea. I had a pleasure to meet Heidi almost 2 years ago and my heart aches for her as mom to mom. Sending a card very soon. xo, Marian

  17. Denise says:

    I am sitting here reading your beautiful words with tears about to spill down my cheeks. Tears of sadness for a family with extreme pain with their loss and tears of joy that their hope is in Christ and this is not the end. Thank you. Will send my card in the next few days. God Bless You for this effort of abounding love!

  18. cheryl marshall says:

    I think this will be very helpful to them. I lost my oldest son a little over 4 years ago, just before he would have turned 30. A good friend of his set up a memorial FB page that I read quite often. The comments, stories, pictures that his friends post, have helped me tremendously since he passed. I was shocked by the number of people our son knew, and how many lives he touched. We stood for hours at the funeral (a viewing wasn’t possible) and listened to the stories of how our son helped others. The funeral home had to stay open even longer, to allow his military buddies time to arrive, as well. I’ll never forget how many people he touched, and continues to do so til this day. I’m sure the Swapp family will be touched by many as well. Even though Cory was only 16, I’m sure he meant so much to so many people. They may not read the books right away, but when they do, it’s going to help them so much.

  19. Suse Fish says:

    Hearts around the world ache with just imagining what Heidi and her family are going through. I pray that God holds each of their hands very tightly indeed.

  20. Debby J says:

    I sit here reading the comments with tears running down my face. I know the hurt of losing both parents and almost losing my son at the same age as Heidi’s. The hurt is there and hopefully, years will help Heidi and her family get over this horrible lose. Thank you Becky for your hard work in organizing the albums for the Swapp family-I am sure they will appreciate it.

  21. Eveline says:

    I hope and pray for you and your loved once that God be with you and comfort you.

    Be blessed i’ll keep you in my prayers.

    With love,

    Eveline from the Netherlands

  22. May the Lord Bless you and give you peace during this difficult time. You have a very handsome family .Jesus is surely rejoicing to welcome your son back home. I lost a son when he was 29, I am so thankful for the allotted time God let him be with us on this earth.
    Blessings to each family member. keep your memories close and recall them often.

    Respectfully yours, Evelyn from Oklahoma

  23. Marcy D says:

    It just breaks my heart to hear of this. I’m sending my deepest condolences to Heidi, her family and all of those that were blessed enough to be a part of and touched by the life of her son. May God overwhelm them Comfort, Strength and a Peace that surpasses all understanding.

    And thank you Becky and team for this wonderful idea. My card will be in the mail tomorrow. They will be able to look back on these albums in the months and years to come, and prayerfully be comforted and strengthened by the outpouring of love from those known and unknown.

    With love and my deepest sympathy,
    Marcy from Illinois

  24. Ellan says:

    I too can’t stop thinking , hurting, and crying for this family tragedy since I heard the news last Thursday.
    I’ve also lost not a kid but someone who was (is) the most important person in my life, after my kids (only losing one of them could be worse), and know how much it hurts, how words don’t help and, sometimes, they make us feel more alone and not understood. People have good intentions, for sure, but unless they’ve gone through the same kind of loss (which is absolutely different to any other loss) they cannot understand nor help. You need to be listened, and allowed to cry. You don’t have “to be strong” for your kids, you have the right to feel whatever you feel, and act as you want to or need to. Twelve years on and I still cry, and still count the months since his passing (151 yesterday). It’s not a matter of time. But you, slowly, learn to cope. And you learn that you must enjoy everything you still have even more because now you know how it feels to lose them.
    When asked:”How can I help you?” I answer: “Can you bring him back? No? Well then you can’t help me. Just be by my side and let me talk and cry. Please, don’t say anything”.
    I hope Heidi will read the “Bill of Rights” for grievers in the obituary’s website. It’s excellent.
    She’s already been through tough times with her youngest boy who suffers from Sensory Processing Disorder, and now she must face this tragedy. My heart goes to her and her whole family.
    Ellan, from Florida

  25. Ellan says:

    I forgot to thank you, Becky, for giving us this space, and for the wonderful cards idea.
    I’ve read all the comments and they are all so filled with love for this family that if/when they read them, they will surely feel the outpouring of sympathy the whole world is sending them.

    P.S.: Sorry, as you can see, I’m awful at making long stories short.

  26. KarenF says:

    What a wonderful idea, Becky, and thank you for including all of us! I took a couple of classes from Heidi when she taught at Scrapbooks Etc. in Mesa, AZ several years back now, and found her to be such a wonderful person. I’ll be sending my card soon. My heart aches for her and her family; my daughter is 15 and I can’t imagine how much they must be hurting right now. If you and your team need some help in assembling what I imagine will be many books, I am just across town and would be more than happy to help out in any way I can.
    Gilbert, AZ

  27. Jocelyn Mather says:

    I am so so sorry for your loss. Please find comfort in any way you can. Jocelyn
    Thornburg, Ontario

  28. Nidia says:

    I don;t know Heidi I am new to SU and have not really done Project Life but the fact that she is part of SU then she is part of a great Family. I am from Florida and I send my condolences to the family a loss whether expected or not is still a loss that you can’t conceive. May the Lord watch over you and your family at this time of sorrow. Know that everyone is surrounding you all in their Love and strength. I will be sending my card out.

  29. Barb Horner says:

    I met Heidi in Vegas some years back and she was a sweet person. She took the time to have her picture taken with me and my friends. This is very sad to read this. My son died 27 hours after he was born during heart surgery. This was 25 years ago this week. My other two children filled my life and gave me something to live for. Although, my heart will always have a empty space in it, which will not be filled again until I meet him in Heaven. My prayers to Heidi and her family and wishing them peace during this very sad time.

  30. Ruth Gauss says:

    Thank you so much, Becky, for giving those who have been touched by Heidi’s wonderful nature a chance to give back just a tiny bit for all she’s given. I appreciate the opportunity!

  31. Rhonda says:

    I’m grateful for eternal families too and I’m so glad you are doing this for them! I’ve been praying for them.

  32. Silvia says:

    This is a good idea, Becky… I would like to stay close to Heidy at this time… I’m writing from Italy, my card will start next week… I hope that you will receive it in time.
    Only a question: 4*4 inch, correct?

  33. Dnyanada Kulkarni says:

    My heart grieves for the Swapp family. I will send my card from India but it might reach after 15 days. I hope that’s ok. Thank you for taking this initiative.

  34. Desy says:

    condolences from Indonesia. this was the 2nd sad news I received last week. I’d love to join this. thank you for allowing some time for the cards outside USA to arrive. hope my card won’t be too late.

  35. Barbara says:

    So very sorry to hear this news. It’s been on my mind for days. You are doing such an awesome thing for your dear friend. Heidi has been an inspiration to many in the papercrafting world. Hugs and prayers.

  36. Tina Gilliland says:

    My heart is so sad and I can imagine how Heidi’s is as I lost a baby years ago. It’s the worse feeling in the world. This craft community is a family of love and strength, together as one. I love that. Thank you, Becky, for doing such a huge task to share our love and support with Heidi. God will see us all through this and we will be that much stronger and closer. Sending mine today. Thank you again.

  37. You’re a good friend, Becky. I will be sending my card this week. Bless you for reaching out in this way.

  38. Natasha says:

    That’s such a great idea for the Swapp family. Mine will be sent today from Australia.

  39. Kristine Vencel says:

    What a wonderful friend you are to do this for the Swapp family. I am sure it will be greatly appreciated by them. I will send my card in the mail.
    Thank you.

  40. Caroline Louth says:

    What can one say ~ it beggars belief! I do know that families are forever, though, and your boy must have been very special for his life here on earth to have been so tragically cut short. I hope your family can draw strength, courage & comfort knowing that he has a more important work than on this earth & that you will be reunited to hold him in your arms once again one day. I don’t know you but, as a mother, I share in your grief. I don’t live even in the same country as you but the world becomes a smaller place because of the need I (and many others) feel to reach out & comfort you. What can I say? I feel words are inadequate but I hope knowing people care helps in the difficult days ahead Xx

    Caroline Louth, Scotland, UK

  41. Sharon F. says:

    A beautiful idea and wonderful tribute.

  42. Valerie White says:

    Thank you for doing this. In our community as fellow scrapbookers we have come to know and care for one another and I am so thankful to walk this journey with all of you.

  43. Kristin says:

    Thank you for putting this together. I mailed mine off this morning.

    My heart aches for the Swapp family. I pray the love of God enfolds them in peace and comfort during this time.

  44. Cynthia Bamberger says:

    I know… there is no words to comfort you and your family in this moments… but you must put your faith on God… He will give you the support …. the strengh and all the love you nee in this moments…
    I will be in your sorrow
    A hug
    Cynthia Bamberger

  45. Kaye Jones says:

    Praying for you along with so many of your friends during this more than difficult time. You are loved!

  46. Barbara Andreuzzi says:

    Hi Becky
    Thank you for putting this together. The Italian girls will contribute to this wonderful action. I will collect the cards and send to you.
    xoxoxo BA

  47. DIANA L. says:

    Keeping the family in prayer for God’s comfort and peace as the go through this time of mourning.