Pocket Scrapbooking with Project Life

Cultivate a good life and record it.

May

19th

letting it go

Part of cultivating a good life is being okay when things don’t go as planned.

We all know that life is made up of so many variables – mostly the unpredictable variety. We often don’t know what’s coming our way, but I definitely find that I can still be just fine even when the curveballs are thrown in my direction. I’m not getting deep today. I’m not even going to talk about the really difficult stuff in life.

Today I wanted to share something “lighter” – but it’s a real-life, it-is-what-it-is situation of how I’ve needed to roll with the punches lately. Many of you know that every year since our oldest was in preschool, I’ve done what I call a “Personal Yearbook” project with each of our children and all of their classmates.

Thinking back to how this all started … Porter was in preschool. This was before David and I started our company. He was our only school-aged child. And it was preschool. Okay – fast forward to this school year. All three kids in school. And Porter had two teachers in his 5th grade year. How could I not do this for both classes, right? So at the beginning of the school year, I did what I normally do. I introduced myself to the new teachers, explained the concept of what I was offering to do* and they were each really supportive of me carrying out this project for their respective classes.

*The “concept” is that each month, I pop into the classroom, snap a picture of each child, then come back later in the month and actually guide the students through completing a “layout of the month” that includes that snapshot which I had printed, a handwriting sample … that sort of thing. Pretty simple. In fact, I was more than excited to use the actual Personal Yearbook Project Life® designs this year – finally! We had Liz Tamanaha design the collection based on this tradition I have enjoyed for several years – and she nailed it. Such fun designs!

And then … life happened.

I was able to pop into each of the four classrooms each month, but I was having a really difficult time making it to the point of printing out all the photos and coming back to the four classrooms to work with the kids on their pages. So month after month (and missing a month or two of taking pictures even!) I found myself behind. And then even more behind. Halfway through the year, I kept thinking of ways that I could play catch-up with the kids. I kept thinking there’s got to be a way I can still pull this off – never mind my full-time work schedule and other commitments, right?  *sigh*

And then out of nowhere … it was MAY. May is the end of the school year! It’s right now. In fact, for us it’s this week.

So you know what I did?

I let it go. I let go of the idea that I was going to be Supermom in my kids’ classrooms this year. I let go of the idea that I would be able to send all 86 of those kids home with completed Personal Yearbooks that I just knew the parents would love. I put into practice what I find myself preaching to others which is … no one does it all. Don’t try to do it all. No one expects you to do it all. And you know what? The parents of those 86 kids? They didn’t even know I was doing the project in the first place.

So this is how it went down. I printed off all of those photos. PersnicketyPrints.com totally pulled through for me (as they always do) and the photos not only showed up in my mailbox quickly, but the quality is so good. Then my kids went through the pictures with me yesterday and we made a little pile for every single student. Yes – all 86 of them between the four classes and yes, this (relatively quick) project took over our home office for a couple hours! I placed each little stack of photos in a little sandwich bag along with a note that I whipped up in Photoshop and printed as a photo at the same time I printed all of the actual photos.

This was the note that was in each little bag.

Note - Brown

ADDED NOTE (day after this post went live)

After reading and internalizing feedback from some of you (I’m particularly grateful for those of you who exude kindness) – I realized that my note could come across as more of a marketing effort. Even though that was not my intention, I do see where some people are coming from with the opinion that it was unnecessary and I felt really bad about it all.

The last thing I would want is for others to misinterpret my genuine desire to share. So … I made the decision to just pull those notes out of each child’s little bag of pictures altogether. They’re in the school’s trashcans. Everyone is receiving a bag of pictures – and that’s it. That’s all I was trying to do in the first place — serve and share. My last-minute thought to add the line about Project Life (during a pretty stressful weekend, which is probably why I didn’t give it too much thought) turned out to be interpreted differently than I meant it to be.

As for sharing the note about Persnickety Prints, anyone who follows me on social media knows that I am always happy to share favorite resources with no motives. There’s no kick-back from PP. I don’t make a dime off of any prints made there. I simply appreciate their quality and customer service and am happy to share that with others who may be looking for a good printing service. 

PS – I’m human. I make mistakes. And I really do feel better about pulling my note out of those bags. Those parents don’t need to know where the pictures came from. They just need to enjoy those memories with their child. That’s what it’s always about.

…..

Eighty-six sets of parents will get these photos today, enjoy seeing their precious child at school – on the playground, at lunch, doing a science experiment, holding their latest project, working at their desk … you get the idea. But then I also know that most of those parents will then wonder where to put the photos. In a drawer? A box?

So naturally, what ended up happening with my “letting it go” philosophy is I hope to inspire those parents to work with their child to do their own scrapbooking. I want them to know that there is a way to scrapbook that’s NOT time-consuming, NOT complicated, NOT overwhelming. So of course I mentioned Project Life. Even if just a couple more people know about it from my little effort to share nice pictures, then great.

Today I’m feeling a bit of a burden lifted from my shoulders. I’m grateful I finally got to the point of letting something go. Removing something from my plate. And still being able to share a small gift with 86 very special young people. I just hope those photos end up in a safe place where they can be enjoyed over & over again.

Now I’m going to look at other things that I need to let go of in my life.

COMMENTS

144 Responses

  1. I SOOOOOO needed this today! Thanks for the honesty!!

  2. Sheryl Coe says:

    You’re so great. I need a little pep-talk like this about every six hours, so that was perfect timing. ;) Thanks Becky! Your simple ideas always make my days brighter and my life fuller.

  3. Frances Perkins says:

    Sometimes Becky it takes a long time to let go of anything..or learn to……I did that today let go and it brought peace……no more drama …..but hope the parents do some scrapping with the kids ……

  4. Mandy says:

    I love that you were able to get into 4 different classes. That’s amazing! 86 kids are blessed to have wonderful pics of their year in school…and I bet many of them will be inspired to make their own PL books because of actually having physical prints in their hands! Thanks for the inspiration and all you do for you community :-)

  5. Kristin says:

    So nice to know we are not alone in this boat. I am a teacher who usually makes an individualized movie for each kid. My own son is high school and I don’t have the time….so, letting it go, giving the parents the pictures and calling it fine. Letting it go…but it is hard.

  6. Jennae says:

    Wow Becky, even what you did accomplish… seems like SO much work! I am so impressed with what you DID get done! Actually doing personal yearbooks for all kids… in all the classes… that would be superhuman :)

  7. Missy says:

    Thanks Becky! I think we all need to hear that. From someone who love scrapbooking and Project Life, I would be thrilled with these photos! I hope that the parents will appreciate just having the photos. I know that some will. Good for you for letting it go. I have been a little discouraged lately. When I taught preschool, I took photos of my class throughout the year. I made 12 individual scrapbooks, one for each child. I did the traditional scrapbooking and spent tons of time and money on these. Not one parent told me thank you or said one word about the books- and the parents were present at the end of the year party when I gave them out. Then recently, I took ” semi-professional “photos of children with the Easter Bunny when they attended our underwater Easter Egg Hunt. The photos turned out beautifully. This was a “free gift” to the parents as part of their experience. I cleaned them up and e-mailed them individually to about 50 different families. It was very time consuming. Out of 50 e-mails, I only had one person even respond back and acknowledge receiving the e-mail. She did say thank you, BTW :) . Letting it go! Next year- they can get them off of facebook. Not that I am looking for a thank you note, but it’s just common courtesy. So I am learning to Let it go! So I hope that your parents will embrace the photos, and best of all, start a tradition of PROJECT LIFE with their children.

    • Missy says:

      “Loves” scrapbooking. I should have proofed better. Sorry.

    • Missy says:

      Oh, my solution to the preschool project. The next year, I made a class video with all of the photos, then made a copy for each child. Hoping that the children will one day enjoy it! After all, it is for the children. Didn’t mean to sound like a grumpy Gus. Just venting a little. :) Bless you, Becky, for taking your passion and helping others.

    • Cheryl W. says:

      My nephew’s classmate’s mom (clear as mud, lol) takes photos of the students at school and she makes a Shutterfly photobook. There’s a double page spread of each student in the class, and a little questionnaire they filled out. The rest of the book is devoted to photos from the various activities the class did during the year. Once done she sends the link to the other parents and they can buy a copy or not. Either way she has a wonderful yearbook for her son.

  8. Monique says:

    This was a GREAT post!!! I think we tend to think that we are the only person who can’t always have it all together. Sometimes good enough is just that……good enough. And I bet these families will be thankful to have these great pictures of their kids!! Thanks for sharing your imperfection!!

  9. Kelly says:

    I know I will probably get bashed for saying this, but just being honest. I think it’s tacky that you are promoting your product in the letter to the parents. So sweet what you did, taking all of the pictures and such, but if I was a parent and received this, I would just think WOW, it’s all about the Benjamin’s isn’t it Becky?!

    • Becs says:

      Totally agree! I cringed when I got to that part.

    • Deanna says:

      Agree ^^ Should have just “let it go” at – enjoy these photos of your child……

    • Birgit says:

      I have to disagree. The parking lot at our private school is surrounded by advertising banners that the parents of students have paid to put up. Iit’s just the way the world works. If you are in the business of marketing, you have to market. Most parents would have left the photos in the corner and called it a day.

    • Kelly, I wouldn’t bash you at all. I’m sorry you feel that way though. That line in my note to the parents was actually a very last-minute add-in. Didn’t even cross my mind until just before I was going to upload the prints. Then I had that whole “begin with the end in mind” mentality hit me and I was imagining those moms that I’ve talked to face-to-face; the ones who are drowning in pictures and have no idea where to start. And then they light up when they hear about Project Life because they realize there is a simple way to get it done. And that’s when it hit me that I should add that line – just in case it helps someone. If you knew me personally you would know that I genuinely love to help people. I’m sad to know that you read it in a different light.

    • Bart says:

      Totally agree with Kelly. I also cringed when I read that. I would actually be annoyed that someone took photos of my kids without my knowledge and then used it as a sales pitch. Sorry Becky, I love you and Project Life…but this was just bad form.

  10. Karen Mountcastle says:

    Isn’t it interesting that in letting go we sometimes create opportunities for others. What a gift beyond the pictures you are giving.

  11. Hooray for you! I am currently in the middle of letting lots of physical things go… including lots of older scrapbook materials I’ve been holding onto for years. We are in the midst of a big move and I need to let a lot of things go… any tips for letting go of scrapbooking materials? eek!

  12. Paula O says:

    Those parents will greatly appreciate these photos more than you will know!! As a full time high school teacher who is off school holidays (lucky i know) BUT i am never off to go into my own child’s classroom I would value these photos so much! just a glimpse into what other parents get to pop in and see. You did more than most, :)

  13. mandie savoie says:

    in response to kelly and becs – we know all about becky and project life… but there are others that don’t. i think it’s wonderful that she is sharing those photos and introducing them to the world of “memory keeping”. i don’t believe that she is only about money. she has a good product that is reasonably priced and a real solution to a “hobby” that was time consuming and expensive. her website is free and full of awesome ideas and advice… when you know something is good, you just have to share it =)

  14. Shawna Zervos says:

    Thank you so much for your honesty and ability to just let it go. This is certainly a post I needed to read, as like you and so many others, I juggle to try and “do it all.” I keep trying to find the time to . . . (fill in the blank) all the while missing valuable time at home. I have made a resolution that beginning this summer, if I do not feel passionate about it, I am not going to commit to it. I hope this will help me to let it go. As a parent, I would have LOVED to simply had the photographs, as I am not in school with my girls.

  15. Mary says:

    The letter to the parents was only a sales pitch…very disappointing…how low can you go?

    • Kelly says:

      My thoughts exactly!! Why couldn’t she just wrote something like, “here’s some pictures, hope you enjoy them?” I find it so distasteful that she had to go into a marketing speech about her product!

    • Kylee says:

      I totally agree!!! It appears that Becky’s intention was to “sell her product”, not for the joy of picture taking!

      As a parent, I am disgusted with your approach in marketing….you must really have no morals in selling! It would be one thing, but 1/2 of the letter was for your product???? AND promoting the online print company! Are you getting a kickback from them?

      BTW: Are there proofreaders on your staff? The quality is awful, now that you are making money!! Bleeding, misspelled words, cuts through the cards,images not centered, etc. I am finding out that WRMK quality is so much better than Project Life!

    • I’m really sorry to hear that some of you read my note in such a disappointing, sales-pitchy sort of way. I’m really sad about the way that you’ve addressed me though. To say that you’re “disgusted” with my approach and that I have “no morals” means simply that you do not know me. I have never done, nor do I continue to do what I do – for money. I serve in my community quite a bit and am grateful for opportunities to serve, to give back, to help others in any way that I can. I totally realize that you don’t know me personally and that it’s not easy to really understand people’s genuine intentions.

      As I mentioned in another response, that line in my note to the parents was actually a very last-minute add-in. Didn’t even cross my mind until just before I was going to upload the prints. Then I had that whole “begin with the end in mind” mentality hit me and I was imagining those moms that I’ve talked to face-to-face; the ones who are drowning in pictures and have no idea where to start. And then they light up when they hear about Project Life because they realize there is a simple way to get it done. And that’s when it hit me that I should add that line – just in case it helps someone. If you knew me personally you would know that I genuinely love to help people. I’m sad to know that you read it in a different light.

      As for the criticism toward my staff and our products? We are grateful for feedback, suggestions, and even constructive criticism. We take it all to heart and we continually work hard to make improvements. We listen. We respond. We actually implement suggestions.

      I would ask that next time you have suggestions, that you keep in mind that we are actually really good people, with good hearts, doing our best to work hard (my husband and I have poured so much into this company) and take care of our families and serve in our communities. You make us out to be so awful and I have to be honest — being intentionally hurtful and unkind? I just don’t understand it. We totally listen to our customers. Kindness goes a long, long way.

    • Kylee says:

      If it look like a shark, acts like a shark, and thinks like a shark….well, perception is “IT IS A Shark”! Perception is very important no matter the intention!

      Just admit….you are Mrs. Wonderful! (The attitude of Mr Wonderful on Shark Tank!) That is fine in the business world….which you clearly are now that PL has been a success! I just miss the old Becky and can’t believe what the new Becky does to make a buck! It is a dog eat dog world out there!

    • Heather says:

      Kylee – first, those families are getting FREE pictures from a quality company. As my mom always says, no good deed goes unpunished Second, Becky took time from her own busy schedule to volunteer at school – something that is sorely lacking in our educational system. Third, what is wrong with making money – if that was her attempt, which I don’t believe it was? Somehow our society has gotten the wrong idea that being a financial success is vulgar. It’s not.

      I love the sharks. They create a way for others to have a win-win. The entrepreneur’s business grows and both people make money. If Becky is a shark, great. She has created a world of win-win. She has created a beautiful yet simple system of memory keeping that has struck a chord with thousands of people like me. And if that makes her a financial success…well, it’s the American dream, or at least it used to be.

      Don’t give this another thought Becky. The only opinions you need to care about is yours, your family’s and God’s.

    • Kylee says:

      Wow! I just miss the old Becky’s quality….fine if she is a shark, good for her! But she claims she is not doing for the money and yet she is pushing the sales to her kids’ classes! Sad! Very sad! If it was career day…that would be one thing! And, expecting credit for printing pictures … Really? Just because she has money, does she have to flaunt it? If this is so grand, why not give her business card to the kids? Maybe the parents that are business owners including doctors and lawyers need to provide business cards to their children’s classmates!!

      Schools aren’t the place for “selling”! She is definitely the age of “look at me”, buy my products, etc.

    • Heather says:

      Kylee – enjoy your life and glad you know what is in everyone’s hearts and what’s in their bank accounts. Hope you never get a free toothbrush from a dentist with their business info. Glad not everyone in the world doesn’t see it like you…

    • Kylee says:

      Heather,
      That is exactly my point! I have a dentist appointment and therefore I expect a free toothbrush!

      When my child goes to school, I don’t expect marketing in the masses …. If she wants to talk to individuals fine. All I am saying is where do you draw the line in schools? If she can promote her business to the students, then the other parents should too! Not that I agree….school is for learning! It is just sick that she stooped so low and wants credit!!!!

      No matter what her intentions …. SHE WAS SELLING in a school. Giving her business “card” to kids!

      There is a place and time for marketing….and if you gave pictures to only her kids’ classmates, what about the other students in the school!!!

      This was just an easy way to disguise “look at me and what I did”

      Sad!

    • Lisa says:

      Kylee,

      I totally agree with you!!!

      Becky reminds me of lawyers chasing down ambulances and hospitals! Sick, just sick!

      Everyone has their own opinion! If you can’t take the heat, don’t be in the kitchen!

      Becky portrays intentions, but don’t let her fool you….she isn’t very nice to individuals who she thinks are beneath her: janitors, cameraman, maintenance, waitresses… Just sayin.

    • Heather says:

      Heather, just because they don’t agree with you doesn’t mean they aren’t kind.

      It’s funny how becky doesn’t like or want criticism … We all don’t like it! But it is their opinion!

      I have seen becky in action, but she can be intimating!

      So why is the product quality worse — to impact the bottom line! She is a business owner to make money!

    • KelleyBean says:

      Kylee, you are the one who is way out of line with your ranting. You too, along with Lisa have assumed way too much. Becky was not pushing anything, yet you take her to task and assume the worst. Your posts scream that you are petty and jealous of her success. You have no idea what Becky Higgins makes monetarily yet, you proclaim it is all about that. You are the disgusting one on this entire thread. You should be ashamed at your postings here. They scream more about the kind of person YOU are rather than what you are trying to insinuate about Becky.

  16. Gina says:

    Love this idea. Thanks for sharing!

  17. Thank you for keeping it real!

  18. Andrea Johnson says:

    The pictures themselves were the greatest gift. To “see” your child at school? I can’t tell you how often I’ve wondered while I was at my desk at work what my kids were doing at that exact moment. I remember my childhood and school years so well. To get a glimpse of that in my children’s life? Oh how I would of loved that. Truly a gift. You are awesome!!

  19. Maureen Van Dusky says:

    This is a great example of what my husband is always trying to remind me!! I love the part about the parents not even knowing what you had in mind. My husband says I put most of the pressure on myself because most of my to do list of intentions, crafts, projects are in my head!! No one else knows all I I tend to do and already think highly of what I actually accomplish!
    My daughter is graduating eighth grade and I was soooo involved in 5 th grade graduations from not only editing and creating the entire school’s yearbook for 400 students, but a 50 page printed special fifth grade book with all 125 students portraits, personal essays and candies throughout the year. I was also class Mom, troop leader, and a bunch if other things! Now she’s graduating 8th grade and last year I spent 4 weeks in and out of the hospital with meningitis and migraines and the year before I spent three weeks in the hospital with a blood vessel that burst and developed blood clots and had several biopsies for tumors they thought were my cancer returning from 9 years ago; luckily were benign, but still had several onths of recovery, and am on blood thinners for life now. So the last three years have been difficult and I have to count my blessings of what I could do three years ago and let go what I couldn’t this year and be grateful that I am here to do what I can. Through these trying times I discovered Project Life and am able to quickly capture what I have and relive the moments I could and appreciate those.

  20. Hi Becky. I just finished the personal yearbook project with 13 students in my son’s pre-K class. This is the 3rd year I have done this and this particular year was a struggle. I was going between 2 schools, students were absent a lot and I have been busy with my blog and small business. I think I will make some changes for next year but I still hope to take photos of the kids in my children’s classes. I think for some those pictures will be the only ones I ever have and I hang on to that thought to motivate me. Thanks for sharing your experience. I know the parents of the 86 students will treasure these photos.

  21. Susan says:

    Good for you Becky! I’m glad you were able to let it go and not look back! I am getting better with the “letting go” part, it’s the “letting it haunt me for a while” part that I still need to work on!!

  22. Gail says:

    What a wonderful thing to do!

  23. rachel m says:

    I am cringing reading these comments! If you don’t have something nice to say…you can fill in the blank. I would be THRILLED to receive pictures of my boys during the year. As a working parent, I feel like I miss a lot of what’s happening during the school day with my boys. What Becky did was a WONDERFUL and selfless gesture. And thank you Becky for being honest, even supermoms need a rest and you let go of your expectations for this project. And you know what? If I received that note, I would be so happy and want to know more about Project Life! Because yes I have boxes of pictures and I want to capture life right now. I already have the pictures and just need the stories to go with it. Something I could sit down with my child and learn about their school year in those precious pictures. We are all here because we support Project Life in some way. So why are you being so critical if Becky mentions it to others? She is sharing her heart with us. Please be kind.

    • Kylee says:

      Just keeping it real….if the truth hurts, that’s life!

      That’s the problem with society…look at me, me, me!

      She claims she wants to know and yet, doesn’t make any changes! So many people have had major problems with her corner punch! The dies are good, but the quality isn’t there! Misspelled words-really???? Binders breaking after minimum use. Stick with what you know and get quality back to what is was in 2012 standard!

  24. Enid says:

    Thanks for you honesty!!! So nice to know that I’m not the only one. I know those parents will appreciate those pictures.

  25. Carrie says:

    I think it’s important to note that so many of us start with good intentions and then life happens. I would LOVE to do a yearbook project with my kiddos at school, but I just know it’s not even feasible for me to get to 3 different classrooms once, let alone twice a month AND do a project. I had to let that go. I think that by even setting out in the beginning with such a large task was a huge step! I couldn’t even make it that far! With all you have on our plate, I think every mom/working woman understands when the end doesn’t come like we had planned. It happens everyday to all of us. Even just having those pictures is more than any of those 86 parents was expecting. Sometimes you just have to make do.
    As for the “sales pitch”, who cares? Heck, I pitch Project Life and my fave photo printer all the time when I give people pictures! Nobody is calling me out for it. I personally don’t think Becky had her Project Life CEO hat on when she wrote that, I think she had her Grateful Mom hat on and wanted to share what works for her….which is something we all do from time to time.
    Thank you for giving us a great way to organize our memories and photos. I’m a Project Life Lifer!
    And thank you for giving us a glimpse into Real Becky, the Becky who is just.like.the.rest.of.us. :)

    • Karen H says:

      Carrie,You said exactly what I was going to say! (and very nicely put!) So Becky here’s another fan saying, you Rock!

  26. Pat says:

    Thank you Becky! I know the parents will love receiving these pictures, please ignore the mean comments. There will always be people that want to find fault and are jealous.

  27. LB says:

    Hey even the photos are a great start to a memory. The best laid plans right? What a thoughtful gesture.

  28. Jill P says:

    Becky – I am totally appalled at the nasty comments some people have chosen to leave. Anyone who follows you knows what a kind-hearted, caring, generous person you are. This digital age seems to have left some people with no manners.

    I, too, am a working mother and do not get into the classroom to see my children at work and would LOVE to have your baggie full of photos from the school year! I LOVE Project Life and encourage you to listen to “the good stuff” and keep that in your heart. We Love you!

    • KelleyBean says:

      I too am appalled at those who come to your blog and are so mean and say what they have. They seem to have an agenda–instead of commenting specifically on your post, they use it as a soapbox to vent their worldly frustrations and attack you. They know nothing of being constructive or even nice about it. They have no shame in being who they are, their comments reflect more about who they are and not about who Becky is. This being anon on message boards and blogs gives them some brass ones as to what they say, because I am certain that if they were to post their full name and whereabouts, they would not say nearly anything remotely close.

  29. Meghan says:

    I am relatively new to Project Life, having just learned about the products at the end of last year. I am a regular reader of the blog and also follow on Instagram; I enjoy what you share (and that you do at all) immensely. While I would never presume to know someone simply from the rather limited glimpses into daily life that these channels offer, I can say that I think you went into this situation with the best of intentions… And that includes the note that seems to have caused a bit of a stir. I will confess that I was a little uncomfortable seeing what felt like a not-so-thinly veiled sales pitch tacked on to an otherwise kind gesture. I think folks were put off by it in part because we have reached a point where advertising all but consumes our daily lives – even interactions with friends and family.

    I realize the sentiment has already been shared here (and not kindly, I’m sorry to see) but I wanted to share my thoughts with you for two reasons. One, in addition to the above, I think it feels so uncomfortable because for better or worse you ARE Project Life. While I absolutely believe that you are passionate about the system and how it can help people, it is a business and any mention thereof is going to feel like self-promotion to those that only know you in that capacity. Two, I’m sorry that you have taken such a beating here, because I do believe that you are a good person with a kind heart. At the end of the day that’s what matters most!

    • Deanna says:

      Meghan- Well said, my sentiments exactly. Of course we always need to speak the truth in love and that is what you did. No harm in sharing an opinion and we can be nice about it:)

  30. Kay says:

    I am amazed that you have been able to complete this project for so many years as it is. Every September, I think about doing it, but then I remind myself that it will probably never get finished, so I don’t start! I also think it is great that you printed out the photos and gave them to the parents anyway. Most people would have probably just ditched the entire thing and that would be that. I don’t doubt that you had the best intentions with delivering the photos to the parents at all.

    The thing I think some people are taking issue with is that you didn’t leave it as simply a nice gesture to the parents, you turned it into a marketing tool. Now, we own our own business, so I understand that in this day and age with all of the marketing that’s in your face all the time, it’s important to find new ways to get your product or service noticed. Although I am sure that the parents you have spoken to love the idea of Project Life (as we all do that are on your blog), I can guarantee that there were plenty of eye rolls when reading your note. Think of it as similar to the way you would react to your children receiving a bag of candy at Halloween from the dentist’s house down the street that also included a toothbrush and floss with his business name on it. Tacky, right?

    A lot of us have been reading your blog and following your work in the scrapbook industry for a very long time now and I think what some of us are feeling is that it’s no longer just “Becky”, it’s “Project Life Becky” all the time. And like I said above, I get that you have to have your product out there, it just seems like a little over the top sometimes. When you’ve put your life out there for so long, people feel like they know you and, for me, it just feels like a very different tone to your blog/facebook, etc than has been there in the past.

    • Kay says:

      I just re-read my comments and I want to make one thing clear – I do NOT think you are an unkind person or started off with the wrong intentions at all. In fact, I do think giving out the photos was a very generous thing to do! From what I have read over the years, you definitely seem to be a very kind and caring person. What I have said above is something I would say to a friend that I thought had made an error. I definitely do not mean this as “bashing”, more of constructive criticism to someone I have “known” for so long.

    • Kylee says:

      Exactly my point!!!!!

    • Kelly says:

      This is exactly how I feel Kay! Your third paragraph says it so well! I have loved Becky from back in the day when she did Creating Keepsakes and I own several of her books. I don’t doubt that she is caring or nice, that wasn’t my point. She didn’t just send the pictures home and leave it at that, she didn’t just say please preserve these keepsakes, she HAD to throw in her marketing. Here’s some pictures, go and buy my project life stuff so I can make more money! I’m surprised the teacher let that letter go home with the kids. I’m sure the principal will get some complaints.

  31. Leslie S. says:

    Becky, that is so sweet of you. I’m sure those parents will love getting those photos. I hope they do visit your website and order an album to put the photos in. I am so thrilled you invented Project Life. I have been using it for several years now and my photos are always up to date. I know others have jumped on your bandwagon and come out with their own versions but the quality just never seems to be as good a Project Life. I am a customer for life.

  32. Crystal says:

    Thank you Becky! What an awesome idea and reminder that we cannot do it all! Thank you for sharing.

  33. Bart says:

    Totally agree with Kelly. I also cringed when I read the note. I would actually be annoyed that someone took photos of my kids without my knowledge and then used it as a sales pitch. Sorry Becky, I love you and Project Life…but this was just bad form.

  34. Patty says:

    LOVE Project Life…..just can’t believe how RUDE some people are. Sounds like Becky was trying to something nice for the kids and their parents and was trashed for it. Shame on people for the hurtful comments.

  35. Heather L says:

    As a working mom of three, I had to learn to let things go and prioritize, especially when life happens. I learned that a healthy family dinner and completed homework was better than a tidy house, that little extras didn’t make or break anyone. I also gave up volunteer work, because I knew I had nothing left. My children are now 18, 16, and 13. They are happy, hard-working and kind! It is definitely ok to let things go!

    As an elementary teacher myself, I never got into my children’s school!! I missed that dearly. I would have been beyond thrilled to receive a bag of photos!!! What a kind and generous gift that no one “has” to give. Even if they had sat in a drawer for years, it would have been amazing!!

    I started using Project Life last summer. It has changed my life in so many ways and I sell it to everyone I know. Next year, in my Grade 4/5 class, I will be doing it with my students. I will have cards and photos and will have the children record their thoughts throughout the year. I can’t wait to give them this opportunity for meaningful writing! I also know that the journaling part will so help those with anxiety as well.

    Becky, it was super kind for you to do this for over 80 kids!!! What a task! You get a super mom award from me!

    • Lydia says:

      Did you get permission from all the parents to take pictures of their children/child? If yes, fine. If no, why not! If someone was taking a picture of my child at school (that wasn’t a staff member or teacher) I would be at the principal’s office so fast!

      Secondly, sending info about your company with the kids? Do you want your child to get ads from other parents?

  36. You are a very caring and giving person. What a lovely thing you have done for 86 parents!

    Mary from NH

  37. Kristin A. says:

    Thank you so much for sharing, Becky. It is so hard to let go sometimes and I truly appreciate you sharing an example you’ve faced where you weren’t able to do something you had so wanted to do and how you handled it. I think sometimes even recognizing it’s time to let something go is hard enough, let alone doing it! Thank you for sharing.

    Reading this post had me searching around your blog for the other posts you’ve done on personal yearbooks, but I can’t find them. Did they get taken down? My kids are now at the ages where I can do something like this, but I am having a hard time visualizing how you laid everything out. If those posts (and downloads) still exist, would you mind sharing a link as I can’t find them. Thanks!

    • Toni Chase Toni Chase says:

      Hi Kristin! When we switched blog formats, we lost some old posts. We are working very hard to have that content restored so hopefully they will be back up soon! ~ Toni @ Becky Higgins

  38. Carol says:

    Sometimes you just can’t “do it all”. I think its awesome that you went ahead and printed the pics. Persnickety prints is my fave too. And, yes, totally a good idea to add the Project life part. As popular as it is, there are still so many people who Don’t know about it. I tell people all the time that I scrapbook, then I get the “wish I did” or “oh” defeated sort of comments. That’s when I tell them, “I do PL, have you heard of it? ” 99% of the time I end up explaining how easy and rewarding it is. And for all the “haters” out there, did you forget that Becky just gave away “hidden” and FREE project life editions? Or all the “giveaways”? Just let it go. :)

  39. Becca Collemer says:

    Hi Becky,
    I love this idea. I purchased the personal yearbook project life design. Traditionally I’m a paper product buyer so now that I have this digital design – I don’t know how best to use it. I know it may sound silly but I’m not really sure what to do now that I have it. Any insight you could provide would be very helpful as the designs are really cute! Thanks so much! Becca

  40. Amy says:

    As a mom, and also a huge fan of PL and Becky, I have to say that when I read the PL reference in the note to the parents I thought it made the whole thing come off as a sales/marketing opportunity instead of a fellow mom who really cared about the kids. It just kind of takes away from it. I am sure many of the parents know what Becky does for a living and it might have been better to just offer, “I’m sorry I didn’t get them into a scrapbook format, let me know if you are interested in doing something like that with your pictures, I have some ideas”.

  41. Lydia says:

    Idea!!!!

    • Lydia says:

      How about all the parents from the 80+ students send their business cards to Becky’s kids, so she can have 160 marketing items!

  42. Amy says:

    *Soap Box*
    After reading, with much disbelief, some of the rude, and ignorant comments posted below I feel compelled to apologize to you Becky. I am a firm believer in each person’s right to speak their mind when they have an opinion that want to express, but the behavior exhibited here, by supposed “adults”, blows my mind. I was always taught if you had something to say, and wanted to be heard, you need to honest and respectful. There was nothing respectful about the harsh, hurtful language being used here. Some of these posts read like a personal attack, not a difference of “opinion”, which is totally uncalled for. Whether you agree or find fault with something that Becky did, she shares her personal experiences with you freely, grown up! This kind of obscene behavior is simply embarrassing to the rest of the normal, well-adjusted human race. In my opinion, it is this lack of simple human dignity, displayed here, that is…to paraphrase one of you… “what is really wrong with society”.

    • Amy Jackson says:

      Sorry about the soap box rant but it was truly upsetting to read all of this (pardon my words) CRAP! If you can’t be honest and kind at the same time, say nothing. You know what they say about those that cast stones right?

    • Bart says:

      Amy – many of us are HUGE fans of Becky and PL and just wanted to express to her our impression from the letter. We have a right to do so. I am not a “HATER” or “RUDE” and I too have a right to speak my mind. If I had received a letter like that, I would not be happy. I am a photographer and I would never dream of taking photos of a child without prior permission from the parent and I would never dream of publicizing my business through my children. It is just bad form and inappropriate. If I received something similar from a parent of one of my children’s classmates, I would be furious. My kids go to school to learn….not to be a marketing vehicle for their parents’ businesses. It’s as simple as that.

    • Marissa says:

      Bart,

      Exactly!

      It is not rude to express your feelings.

      I, too, am concerned about someone other than staff or teachers taking pictures of my children without my consent!

      Secondly, the school is a place to learn!

      Very interesting post!

    • Amy Jackson says:

      I said nothing about not having the right to express one’s opinion, quite the contrary. My issue is the way in which some people, having the anonymity of internet, feel like it’s their “right” to be as rude and hurtful as they choose. I am fine with someone expressing their disappointment or even outrage as long as we can keep in mind we are adults here. I wasn’t name calling, just stating my own “opinion” no need to take offense, right? We are all just “expressing ourselves” here…unless of course the shoe fits…

    • NoOneSpecial says:

      I fully support this statement made by Amy. Thank you!

      Bart, Kelly et al need to grow up, learn to think before they write such hateful stuff, it’s bull that your excuse is “keeping it real” when it is your twisted opinion as well as believing that you gave a right to speak out in such a way–internet anonymity is the only reason you did so!

      From reading about the photos it sounds like Becky has been doing this for years with the classroom photos and if the scroll had issue with it they would have stopped.

      Your disdain for what Becky does is the real issue with this post, your commentary are 100 times worse than anything she has said or done!

  43. Sheryl Pyle says:

    I feel you and I am not as busy as you are. I am so far behind and wanting to do grandkids stuff. Oh how I wish I had PL when my kids were little. I could not believe you have done this each year. I so hope those parents really understand how hard this was for you to not get this finished…Isn’t it interesting how when we finally let go, it is like a huge boulder off of our shoulders. God Bless you Becky for all you do for everyone and I love your albums.

  44. Bart says:

    And honestly, they way that Becky worded the note is a bit weird, “I have come into Mrs. Brown’s classroom each month during this school year to photograph each student for no other reason than for them to have everyday, real-life type photos of themselves in school.” For no other reason? If that is the case, then why did you include your business information. And you even used a register trademark symbol in the note. Really? I mean, it is just weird. The next best thing wouldn’t have been to print off the photos…the next best thing would have been to make the photos available online for instant download. She printed the photos so that she could stick this little marketing advert into every kids’ backpack. It is completely inappropriate. Completely. It pains me to say this….because I love PL…..but the more I read this note and the discussion, the more put-off I am. Seriously people, if you got a note like this from your child’s friend’s dad…..for say, legal work…or landscaping business…you’d be pissed and annoyed.

    • NoOneSpecial says:

      Not in this case I wouldn’t! Too many of you are just looking for the next thing to take Becky over the coals for anything she does. I did not jump to the conclusion that this was a marketing pitch- my first thought was “how sweet” and then dang she did that for 86 kids!!!!

      I think that there are too many who just have their minds in the wrong place and their poor upbringing allows them to blurt it out.

  45. Marissa says:

    Becky,

    I really would like some examples of how you implemented actual customers’ suggestions. You can say you do and you have many, many times, but there has never been any examples!

    Secondly, you are a business and businesses make money….the American dream! So I don’t appreciate that your “intentions” are for customers! You found a niche and are making $$$$ plain and simple!

    If your intentions were for customers, why did you stop selling to internet stores who don’t have a brick and mortal building? And why you did you open your online store…..to make money!!!!

    Yes, you have created an empire, good for you, but it is so tongue in cheek claiming it isn’t the money, especially since the quality is so bad now!

    When will those item be fixed? I love PL cards, but everything else is crappy! I won’t even buy your albums any more now that WRMK is so much better! My PL album is falling apart! Even your dies are flimsy ….. So why is stampin up PL dies so much better? Because stampin up products are QUALITY products!

    Now, with advertising to kids at school- wOW!

    Please bring back the old Becky back!!!

  46. Desiree says:

    I’m willing to bet some of the “trolls” on this post (Bart, Kylee, Marissa, Lydia, etc) are probably the same person. This person is very likely bored, angry at life, and unsuccessful. The note was not perfect, but Becky does not need to be crucified. Get over it, people!

    • Cindy says:

      I’m sure a quick check of IP addresses would prove that to be true.

    • Not a Troll says:

      You can check my IP address-I’m not any other above posters and I don’t agree with the note that was to be included. It screamed of a marketing ploy and I’m glad she made the decision to remove it. I would have been appalled if I found it in my child’s backpack. Not cool.
      I rarely visit this blog anymore because it’s one big commercial for Project Life. Sad-I used to love coming here.

  47. Michele says:

    To all of Becky’s fans …. I literally had to grip myself with some of these nasty things that were said here. Nasty, I mean in the WAY it came across from so many of you that “expressed” your concerns, “rude” or not… frankly, I do not care what YOUR intentions were. Becky’s intentions were good but sometimes as humans, we make mistakes and from those we learn to not make the same mistake again. As you’ve all seen, Becky has stated a couple of times that she apologized for the way her note came across but a lot of you that did not “see” it that way, did not accept her apology whatsoever.

    Let me say this, I could name a few of you that have are such a disappointment to read your comments here on Becky’s blog. This is a home for a lot of us who follow her blog for insights, tips, tricks, inspiration what have you….. I myself am a Project Lifer and LOVE the products I’ve purchased of PL. While life has gotten in the way for me, I’m always having it in the back of my mind that I need to get back into it and with that, I’ve started printing a bunch of pictures which now prepares myself to continue where I left off. So those of you, who are such a disappointment, please do us and yourself a favor, LEAVE Becky’s blog and never return, don’t even purchase her products since it shows you came on here not supporting her but BASHED her. This is her and her family’s success and we share their excitement. Please also be considerate to those of us who have to read your nasty comments left here.

    Becky, while I can only imagine how you’re feeling, let me apologize to you for all of those morons out there that weren’t so kind. They do not know how to appreciate your creativity and your kindness that you have shown us all. I would probably have given up on scrapbooking all together if it wasn’t for your invention of Project Life. You no longer owe anyone else an explanation, you’ve already mentioned it on this post a few times. Keep doing what you doing, inspiring us all. Hugs to you!

  48. Brittney says:

    I can honestly say I have NEVER responded to posts on blogs before, but after reading your “added note” just before I read through every comment I couldn’t just leave without writing you something. Becky, I don’t even know if you are reading comments anymore because I know I wouldn’t be if people were verbally tearing me down the way they are you. With each rude comment I read I got a bigger pit in my stomach and my heart just ached for you. I love Project Life and have been a fan since 2011. If I end up not enjoying it anymore, the quality (like some people have mentioned), or even your behavior (which I find nothing wrong with) I would stop buying your product. Plain and simple. I would not be on your blog using intentional hurtful words towards you. But I LOVE your product and recommend it to as many people as I can! You have provided me with such an outlet in a busy life that is not only fun, but it provides my husband and I with lasting memories.

    Lastly, it is taking all I have to bite my tongue and not call out those people who were being so rude and hiding behind a computer screen. What they say, may never cross their minds again, but it could linger on in your mind. Not nice. Not nice at all. I know you are a Believer, as am I, and I want you to know that I said a prayer for you to find peace and comfort in knowing that no ones opinion of you matters as much as the One above. I pray you are having a better evening, that the nasty comments end, and if I could, I would give you a hug right now! Cause I need one after reading those comments and it wasn’t even written towards me!

    • Amy Jackson says:

      Awesome Brittney! I had the same reaction. Up until the moment I jumped up on my *soap box* earlier in this post, I have always been just a reader of Becky’s blog. I could not read all of this and NOT say something about the shameful behavior happening here.

  49. NoOneSpecial says:

    I think it is a shame that you felt that you needed to pull the notes. I cannot believe how many hateful comments get made when a parent does something good and just cannot see it for that, instead they head straight to the “ulterior motives” attack! I for one would have been appreciative for the information. There are way too many who think that it is okay to post such negative comments, telling you how to be, how to run your business, how to do this or that. It pains me to see that theist who commented negatively passed right over the fact that you prepared 86 bags of photos. FOR FREE to these parents. Shame on them for berating you into changing.

  50. Alida says:

    Wow, I can’t believe I read through all these comments. And disbelief is the word here, disbelief at how this has blown up. Becky, I also wondered about the wisdom of the note, but man, you didn’t deserve this. Hope you’re ok. Thanks to all who said it all so well. As for the rest, how about showing some humanity in your offence if you’re the bigger person here. There’s no point in going on about morals in promoting your business if you yourself cannot do something as basic as respect a persons spirit in your effort to help her on the right path.

  51. Lisa says:

    I don’t see why everyone is upset about the posts! Becky has changed since her PL has been successful and people want to know why!

    Secondly, luckily she removed the notes from the photos! She could have received major problems with the school especially if she didn’t get parent’s permission to photograph their children.

    Finally, this is the first time she actually took her customer’s suggestions!

    • Missy says:

      I don’t think that anyone has a problem with opinions about the note. It is the WAY it was done. There is a difference in making a suggestion or criticism vs. bashing someone. I rarely respond to posts of any kind because eventually someone starts name calling and being disrespectful, but I am waiting for care pairs, so here goes… I don’t see how anyone can say Becky has changed. We don’t know her heart. Sure, her content has changed and she focuses on PL, but we all helped her create this success. I love it for her! Becky’s blog is the only blog that I check on a daily basis. I love that she shares organizational tips, home tips,etc. and of course, PL. She has been truly consistent and honest through all the years that I feel like I know her.. Never has she flaunted anything. She is genuinely excited about helping people. Her heart exudes kindness even through the computer screen ! I am just sad that people feel like they can say hurtful things just because they are not saying them in person. So the moral of this is to let go of this drama. I will pray for you, Becky-,that you can let this go because I would have a very hard time not letting his bother me personally. Please don’t let a few people get you down.

    • Missy says:

      Typing on my iPad. Sorry for typos.

    • KelleyBean says:

      This is NOT the first time that Becky has taken a suggestion, and I am puzzled as to why you would even say that, not knowing any thing about her business! You assume way too much and it is clouding your judgments.

      As for Becky changing-she has been making her business available to more people, creating more designs than ever, growing both positively and with a few growing pains here and there–may be the issue here is not that she has changed, maybe YOU are stuck in a rut.

      It is people like you who don’t progress, grow, and change that keep you stuck where you are.

  52. Chrystal says:

    Becky, I think it’s really classy of you to step back, take the criticizm (even if it was pretty harsh at times), and then take action (by pulling the note out of the bags). I do believe that you had the best intentions. Best of luck to you and PL!

  53. Lisa says:

    It just appears that Becky is for the money and recognition…..her company isn’t PL…her company is becky higgins.com.

  54. KelleyBean says:

    Lisa–you apparently did not read the entire post that Becky made and made assumptions and criticized her harshly for YOUR assumptions. Becky has stated that she pops into the classroom monthly, that she has been doing this for years–THE SCHOOL KNOWS. If they had issue with it, it would stop.

    I am appalled at the audacity of those who were harshly critical here—there is “no keepin’ it real” as one has mentioned, because they are bashing Becky based on assumptions. They assumed that her goal was not altruistic. They went right for her jugular and just assumed that she was up to no good. Why is that? You don’t know Becky in real life at all, and you made judgments about her doing something good for the classrooms–an act that she has done for 4 years.

    I think that many of these who have been on the hate train read certain blogs that are nothing but vile, hateful crap, which is solely based on lies, rumors and untruth. They participate in thinking that their voice is founded and that they have a right to slam someone on their own blog.

    To those who are questioning Becky and her company, if you don’t like her/company, then just stop! You don’t need to hash out all your vents and hates on her space! Anyone of you having a business would pour your heart and soul into it to see it succeed. You would reach out to family, friends, locals, and the like to gain support. You would do it for a profit too. I am totally befuddled as to why there is so much negativity for Becky in her business venture. The rants here about it scream pettiness and jealousy–why else would you even comment in such a way. OF COURSE her for profit company is to make money. Becky has employees, partners, suppliers, and many others who rely on the success of the items she produces. You all have free will–if you like what you buy then great, if you don’t move on.

    Social media is being abused by those who think it is fun and games to rake businesses and their owners over the coals for anything, real or made up. Business owners now have to deal with the slams and negativity in a very public forum. Of COURSE they don’t want the negativity on their business, however in this case, Becky has come in and added to her post, told you all what she had done, based on some harsh criticism, and here they are again—slamming her and pretty much calling her a liar and shady. ON HER OWN BLOG. She made the fix that was recommended and the haters keep piling on and trying to vilify her. It is not even regarding the subject of the post, there are a few who took this post as a soapbox demanding answers and slamming her for other products like she hand makes every single item. It is shameful.

    I am sick to death of people trashing others like this.

    • Lisa says:

      KelleyBean,

      Aren’t you doing the same thing that you are accusing everyone else? You are making assumptions!

      Your post is more hurtful to Becky’s customers than the posts already here.

      Many individuals were shocked (and rightly so) that Becky was going to send out an advertisement about her business to SCHOOL-AGED kids!!!! That is it! (We know how becky was, so we were extremely surprised on this marketing tool!)

      There are many people here who love her products and even if her intentions were good, it still doesn’t make it right. She has apologized … Get over it!

      Regarding her products that aren’t of quality, she needs to know. Yes, she doesn’t hand pick them, but her name is on the product!

    • KelleyBean says:

      I don’t think so Lisa. You and a few (not many) others were so over the top, intentionally mean and disrespectful on her blog. This mean mentality where people feel that trashing a business person on her own site is so disrespectful and wrong. There are many who feel opposite how you do, and you don’t see any one of them trashing her for quality issues on a post that has nothing to do with her blog post. You and a few others took this opportunity to gang up and get high and mighty on soapboxes to disparage her. Plain and simple–and I am not assuming anything, it is all right there in your posts.

    • Audrey says:

      Wow kelleybean — are you perfect?

      I didn’t think so!

      Please stop your rants!!!!!

    • KelleyBean says:

      Audrey, you are clearly mistaken as to who is “ranting” here. The posts made by several of these people here, are shameful and totally unwarranted to their comments. Where does the “perfect” issue come in exactly? These women were shameful and deserve to be called out for their awful behaviour.

  55. christine b says:

    no one is perfect all the time. it is just as simple as sometimes we don’t think about how others might interpret something. becky recognized it once she thought about it and made a change. no need to demonize her. it takes courage to admit a mistake and change it. :)

    • Carole says:

      Personally, I think the mistake was talking about the good deed on social media. You are inviting comments & opinions every time you do that. I get that she was trying to give an example of letting something go & how her original plan was sidetracked by her hectic schedule. We’ve all been there & I think she wanted us to know it’s ok & here’s a way to make lemonade out of lemons but…maybe she needs to dial back the need to share all the good deeds she does with everyone because it really does start to read as, “look at ME” & “look at all the things I do for people”. It WAS nice to print out all those pictures & give them to the parents (without a note about Project Life) but that should have been the end of it perhaps. Why photograph every nice thing you do and post it on IG, Facebook, & blog about it? It’s gotten a bit repetitive lately and I know others feel the same way. Photographing and posting a pic on IG of a delivery of bake goods to the school office staff is another example. Just do it & move on. Isn’t the gratitude of the recipients enough? Do you need hundreds of likes and comments telling you what an angel you are? You really shouldn’t if you are doing it for the right reasons. Again, if she had just printed the pics and sent them to school and not said, “Look at what I did”, none of this would be happening. Matthew 6:1 “Beware of practicing your righteousness before men to be noticed by them; otherwise you have no reward with your Father who is in heaven.

    • Audrey says:

      Many of the comments weren’t rude…they just appeared to be very honest! Personally, I just expected more from Becky….regarding her marketing!

      At least, she apologized and removed the notes from the pages.

      Maybe my expectations are just too high, but bottom line – it is her business (even if her customers don’t agree with her decisions).

      Maybe that’s why so many people were upset, it was out of character!

      I am sure she knows that if too many customers don’t agree with her new business model, then they won’t be buying her products!!! For example, I expected the PL albums to be of quality…her 6×8 are awesome

  56. Kristen says:

    You are awesome. Enough said!

  57. Sue says:

    I think there’s a difference between expressing an opinion maturely and the lines that several commenters here crossed.

    Sure, I read that note and cringed a little at what I thought was a bit of marketing, but the constant need to attack Becky lately is coming really close to bullying. It’s disturbing and disgusting.

    If you have complaints about her product, why not take the appropriate (mature) route and report them to Becky’s or AC’s customer service? Attacking her on a blog post isn’t going to get your point across, you really just look like a jerk.

    Becky, I’m so sorry for the rudeness of several of the bully commenters here.

  58. ANDREA JOHNSON says:

    she removed the note now I think it’s time for certain people below to “let it go” yikes!! amazing how some people can be so hateful. makes me tired just thinking about it.

  59. Kristina Ruth says:

    Hi Becky,

    I really tried to get this completed as well, it just didn’t work out that way. This post made me feel a lot better and I’m going to get the photo printed I do have and send them to school. Thanks for sharing, because now I have a way to not scrap some of the work I already did.

    p.s. There will always be negative no matter what you do and say. Just remember there is a lot of people that love what you do and what you have shared with us. Side note: Kiwi kit on your online site? I’m hoping soon :)

  60. Kathy L says:

    So sorry that people feel the need to bash others in such a hurtful way.

    As a mom who works full time I would love to have received a bag full of pictures to depict my son’s school year.

    For those that no longer like PL or Becky’s products why don’t you move on and allow those of us that do enjoy Becky and what she has to share do so without your poison.

  61. Crystal says:

    Like others have said I am just completely appalled at people’s rude comments here. Expressing your opinion is fine but attacking others is not. I personally found nothing wrong with the note. If I was one of those parents I would be grateful that she took the time to do something so nice whether it was completed or not. I have a friend who is creatively challenged and the suggestion of what to do with the pictures and the products to use would be very helpful to her and I’m sure to many other parents. Becky stated what her intention was with these pictures and it didn’t work out. But if it had she probably would have used the same products she is suggesting the parents use. Should she have crossed out her logo so people don’t think she is advertising her company? She is proud of her company as she should be and why is it a bad thing to want to tell others about it? It seems like more and more lately people are using every opportunity they can to bash her. Bottom line of you don’t like her or her company stop following her and buying her products. Simple. I for one want to say a big thank you Becky and company for all you do!

    • Wendy Orme says:

      I’m with you here, Crystal! The Becky bashers are the ones who need to “let it go”! They have NO idea what is in her heart or mind…and if they actually do, then I wish I had their superpowers.

  62. Steffi Pflicke says:

    I love this idea so much.
    Even though you had to let it go…
    What did the parents say?

  63. Cathy says:

    You may not even read this comment – but I hope you do. Don’t give up. The parents will LOVE those photos of their children. May I kindly make a suggestion for next school year? I have 3 kids and I teach kindergarten half time. I have been doing “your” personal yearbooks with my Kindergarten students for years. It is an important part of my writing lessons in Kindergarten. I take all the photos and I will print all the photos and I glue in all the photos and then I sit one on one with each student to compose their message. I would LOVE to have a parent come in and take the photos for me, never mind print them and glue them in! Maybe you should chat with your children’s teachers next year and see if you could set it up as a partnership with the teacher or even a group of parents so the load isn’t soley on you. Love and hugs! A devoted Canadian fan! (And PL life user since the old Cherry Edition Project 365!)

    • Audrey says:

      Many of the comments weren’t rude…they just appeared to be very honest! Personally, I just expected more from Becky….regarding her marketing!

      At least, she apologized and removed the notes from the pages.

      Maybe my expectations are just too high, but bottom line – it is her business (even if her customers don’t agree with her decisions).

      Maybe that’s why so many people were upset, it was out of character!

      I am sure she knows that if too many customers don’t agree with her new business model, then they won’t be buying her products!!! For example, I expected the PL albums to be of quality…her 6×8 are awesome

    • Audrey says:

      Many of the comments weren’t rude…they just appeared to be very honest! Personally, I just expected more from Becky….regarding her marketing!

      At least, she apologized and removed the notes from the pages.

      Maybe my expectations are just too high, but bottom line – it is her business (even if her customers don’t agree with her decisions).

      Maybe that’s why so many people were upset, it was out of character!

      I am sure she knows that if too many customers don’t agree with her new business model, then they won’t be buying her products!!! For example, I expected the PL albums to be of quality…her 6×8 are awesome

    • Audrey says:

      I am sure she knows that if too many customers don’t agree with her new business model, then they won’t be buying her products!!! For example, I expected the PL albums to be of quality…her 6×8 are awesome

    • Audrey says:

      be of quality…her 6×8 are awesome

  64. Fi says:

    Wow. Just wow! Can I put it to you that if the photos had ended up perfectly presented in their Project Life albums as per the original intentions 99% of you would have said “what a lovely gesture”?
    I’m pretty sure that the parents of the other students know what Becky and her husband do. I’m also pretty sure that to see Project Life mentioned wouldn’t have been a surprise to them.
    The article is about “Letting it Go” why not try it sometime? Some of you seem to struggle with it.

  65. Kazamum says:

    What an inspiration Becky, thank you

  66. nicole says:

    Awesome idea – shame time has a way of getting in the way :-)

  67. Cathy says:

    Sometime people try to expose what’s wrong with you, because they can’t handle what’s right about you!

  68. cazzz says:

    I am discusted at the nasty and personal comments on here.
    Do you say that to the school mum selling Tupperware or candles always promoting her business.Ripping apart someone because they got succesful is not on.We should celebrate Becky’s success and it was a lot of hard work for her and her family.
    She did not even have to post this about the note as it was not even included it shows how human and honest she is..
    Can we not see it for the good deed it was.
    Of course she would have had permission the school is not stupid..
    As someone else posted if parents were given an album to cherish how special would that be..
    Who cares if it is her company she promoted.If I got the note I would have looked up the companies if interested and if not moved on and loved having pics from school…
    Love your work Becky

  69. Michelle says:

    In Australia we call it “the tall poppy syndrome” – successful people are so easy to criticize and judge. Becky you have an awesome concept and make a brilliant product. Personally I love Project Life and memory keeping using your system. I look back and there are moments I would NEVER have captured if completing traditional scrap-booking. I feel blessed to have stumbled across Project Life a few years ago. And how I wish there were more folks prepared to take photos and share them of my kids in school. Photos and memory keeping are so very special! And help me treasure my life. XXX

  70. Carolyn says:

    Honestly, people are just so ridiculous and vicious. So to all those ridiculous people, becky Higgins llc/ project life etc. is a business! Just because it is a business involved in a ‘nice’ product like scrapbooking, that doesn’t make it a charity or require the company to meet some higher ideals you want to impose on them. And here’s another idea, if you don’t like what a company or person associated with a company does, don’t buy their stuff, don’t read their blog, don’t like their Facebook page and don’t make unnecessarily mean and nasty comments! You would never say such things to a person face to face in front of a large group of strangers.

  71. Valerie says:

    I agree with Fi. If Becky had finished the albums, OR, had gifted an album or a gift certificate for one to each child with the pictures, the tone here would be completely different. And, for the “you’re not the person you used to be” observers, change is inevitable. NEXT!

  72. Mary says:

    It’s kinda funny how we all interpret these experiences.
    As I was reading the message that was intended to go with the photos I was thinking, “Wow! How lucky are those students and parents to receive a personal message and photos from Becky Higgins!” And how lucky they are that they received the photos year after year!
    Becky- anyone who has followed you or seen you in action knows you have a good heart and genuine intentions.
    I love that you have simplified my life by introducing Project Life and totally understand that simple message you were trying to convey in your note!
    Smile, God loves you. You’d laugh if you knew how much!

    • Bra says:

      Plain and simple – business owner equals $$$$$$!

      Becky is the one who either does or doesn’t sleep at night!

      End of story.

  73. Sue says:

    One of my friends visits the classes of her children during the year and takes photos (with permission) then puts them to music on a disc as a gift to families at the end of the year. I was rapt the 2 years my daughter was in class with her son. The photos were lovely snippets of the school year – great candid shots. I can just imagine the joy families will have looking through the photos you’ve taken during the year and love the message that sometimes you have to let go of your original plans, and feel just as good with an adapted plan.

  74. LisaB says:

    What an inspiring post in so many ways. Sitting here wishing you were a parent in my son’s class:)–maybe I’ll need to go take some school pictures next year. Thank you for your authentic generosity, and Project Life.

  75. Hi Becky, I just wanted to say I get where you’re coming from with what you typed on the insert. I, like you, love sharing resources with others. When I find out about an awesome program for kids, I tell all my friends with kids. When I eat at a good restaurant, I tell people about it. It’s the same with PL – I love spreading the word about it because it’s such a great product. I’ve been following you for 16 years and know you are a pretty amazing person who only wants to share good stuff with others. Your amazing solution for recording memories in a simple way is another resource that can help others. I’m sure you only wanted to share that resource with these kids’ parents. I get it. Thank you for being the inspiring person you are.

  76. Trisha says:

    When I read this the first thing that sprang to mind was “you are able to take photos of children other than your own?”
    Here in Australia you can’t take a photo of your child playing sport in case you take a photo of someone else’s child.
    If a school wants to take a photo of a child they have to have writte permission.
    It’s a truly wonderful thing you did Becky and, I guess, for people who don’t know how much you believe in Project Life they could take it as marketing.
    Yes. Just let it go. There are detractors everywhere. As my hubby always said to our kids. “It’s character building” :-)

    • Shari says:

      Becky — PLEASE just delete ALL of these comments ….. this whole post has become toxic…. “Let it go” by deleting the whole thing and let’s all move on!

  77. Jennifer K. says:

    I’m so glad I read this today. My husband and I live with ten middle school boys, plus our own son, as houseparents at a boarding school for kids in poverty. I got my Groovebook in the mail today with prints from this past school year and was wanting to make an album for each of them to take home with them for the summer, but really don’t have the time to do it the way I want to for each of them. After reading your post, I think I’m going to give myself permission to simply do one nice album for the student home that the kids can enjoy when they come back in August and send the rest of the photos home in a baggy. Brilliant.

  78. Lindsay says:

    I had to quit reading the comments. And felt I needed to add a good one to the not so good. I don’t know you. But I think what you did for those kids was a great gesture of love and service. The time it took to do that (for ALL the kids, not just your own kids) was something I would so appreciate as a parent.
    Thank you for being genuine, and authentic, and creating a product that allows people to document their stories.
    I didn’t know the “old Becky” as I’m a fairly new follower. But I love the “current” Becky. Don’t let the haters get you down.
    Thank you for who you are and the good you give to the world.

  79. KC says:

    that post made me cry for some reason. maybe because I can relate to wanting to “do it all” and how crappy it feels what I can’t. especially dealing with my kid’s classes!! I’ve got such great intentions at the beginning. Jeez, If I could a fourth of the things you do scrap-booking-wise for my kids I would feel like supermom! I really appreciate your honesty. It’s nice to see that you are like me, not perfect.

  80. Shelbie says:

    Hi there! I love this concept and would love to do this with my child’s class this year. I thought that you offered the templates you used as a free download. If I’m remembering correctly then can you please help me locate the info on your website? Thank you so much.

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