good life with swati kameswar
Part of cultivating a good life is recognizing the importance of self-love and practicing it.
Embodying self-love is a big part of our journey of self-growth. What does it really mean? I didn’t really understand what it meant until I started going through this phase in my own life. It certainly includes physical self-care. Personally, it started with making sure I drank enough water, ate well, and got enough rest. It will look different for each person, but self-love goes well beyond that.
It means showing up for myself in every single moment.
It means not judging or criticizing what I say and do.
It means paying attention to my thoughts and inner chatter, then modifying them to be more affirming.
It means being patient, kind, and compassionate with myself as I learn to navigate through parenthood and life in general.
It also means accepting and allowing myself to feel (in a safe way) all the emotions that come up within me and not suppress them just because they are inconvenient in the moment. Learning to honor my emotions has been a big part of my learning. Our feelings have a lot to teach us. Listening to what message our feelings bring can help us to break out of old patterns.
One huge awareness I have had in my journey is that my relationships are a mirror of what’s inside of me. Being aware of this, I realized that I have the power to change my situation. If judgment shows up in my outer life, it’s probably because I judge the same thing inside of me. This revelation has been very empowering and provided me a way of weeding out old thoughts, beliefs, and judgment from my inner terrain, without blaming anyone else.
Part of the process of embodiment of love involves letting go of old emotional baggage and resentments through forgiveness, but also surrendering to a higher power, going with the flow, having the faith and trust that we will go through anything that comes our way with grace and ease.
As a result, I’ve started to feel more joy and peace and my capacity to see beauty and kindness has increased.
Swati Kameswar currently resides in Austin, Texas, with her husband and two kids (one son and one daughter).