good life with molly ashton
Part of cultivating a good life is learning to enjoy the ride, even with its ups and downs.
Our family loves rollercoasters. If there is a theme park nearby, we will conquer it! A day at the amusement park is a great day in our books. But just as rollercoasters have their ups and downs, so does life. Life isn’t perfect. In order for us to experience great joy, there must also be sadness and pain. Do we wish for the lows and the sadness? Of course not, but we find great joy in the highs and the excitement that life brings.
About ten years ago, I was faced with the devastating news that my mom was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor. At the time it seemed that life couldn’t be any lower. There was nothing easy about watching my mom die, but looking back I can honestly say that I am stronger for going through that experience. My relationship with my husband was made stronger as was the relationship with my sisters. We all face experiences like this. Her death was the first of many trials I have experienced in my adult life.
I didn’t quite know how I would go on without my mom as she had been such an integral part of my life. After she passed away I felt such deep sadness, but I knew that I couldn’t live my life like that. I had to carry on and figure out a way to live the same happy life I had before her death. It wasn’t easy at first, but I realized that my mom would want us to remember the great times we had and live life to the fullest. Shortly after my mom passed, we found out we were pregnant with our second baby, a baby we had been hoping and praying for, for almost a year. What joy I felt in that moment and how strange life can be; the low of death was quickly followed by the high of a new baby.
Now looking back I know that I was faced with this trial in order to learn some things. I learned so much about myself and I learned so much of what my mom had taught me over the years. She taught me to be a strong, independent woman. She taught me to serve others and to give all I have to those around me. She taught me that my greatest joy would come in raising children and being a part of their lives. Without her example and her love for me, I would never be the woman I am today. I am told so often by people who knew and loved my mom that they can see her in me. There is no greater compliment anyone could give me.
I am grateful for my trials, for the rollercoaster that is life, and that through it all I can learn and grow.
Note from Becky
I’m super excited to have Molly chime in with her thoughts on this weekly series we’ve been doing for nearly 2 years now. She’s one of the sweetest, smartest, most hard-working people you’ll ever meet, and for that reason, we are completely thrilled to have Molly as the newest member of the Becky Higgins team as our Project Manager. And oh, how I appreciate her message. I was just talking to a friend the other day about how important challenges are. Opposition in all things? Yep, a part of life. Without opposition and challenges and hardships and being out of our comfort zone once in a while, how are we to grow and evolve and become a better version of ourself, right?
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