good life with emily coe
Part of cultivating a good life is making time to rest.
I have to chuckle as I write a post about something I desperately need in my life. I am in no way an expert in this area. I am a mom to 4 kids and this is my circus and those are my monkeys. A few weeks ago I realized my wheels were spinning and I was running on empty. Feeling tired and like my best just wasn’t good enough. I knew there were changes that needed to be made.
Our culture has glorified busy almost like a measuring stick to see how successful we are. Stopping to take a rest makes me feel guilty, like I haven’t accomplished enough yet in my day to earn it. There are toys to be picked up, mountains of laundry, dishes, and I should really take a few minutes to play with these kids. The work is never done no matter how hard I work at it.
I find myself striving to check everything off my list and only offering rest as a reward for finishing my work. I usually end up telling myself, “After this last chore you can sit down and rest,” just as my girls wake up from their nap. This is when I end up with little to no patience for my kids and husband — in general being a really not-so-wonderful person to be around. I hate getting to that place where I’m just on edge; even I don’t like being around that lady.
I have decided to make rest a part of my daily routine. Not because I’ve earned it but because it’s necessary. Rest is vital to a good life. I think about those piles of laundry and wonder if my kids would rather have all of their clothes freshly laundered or a happy mom who makes time to play with them. I’m thinking the happy mom is what they would prefer. That’s what I’d prefer too. I set such high expectations of how much I need to accomplish in a day, I can’t ever achieve it. Those things on my list still need to be done, but maybe I would have more energy to accomplish them if I would only take a minute to recharge instead of running on empty. There is a point in your day when you’ve done enough and you need to rest.
I feel the best way for me to recharge is to sit with my eyes closed for 5-10 minutes when I start feeling depleted. A quick prayer asking for rest and renewed energy. No phone or TV, just the backs of my eyelids. I can feel the weight being lifted: almost like letting go of a balloon and watching it wiz around the room. After that 5 minutes, I really do feel refreshed and ready to tackle the rest of my day. It doesn’t have to be a lot, just enough to feel like I’ve been able to take a little me time. Taking 5 minutes is the easiest way to accomplish rest and make sure I fit it into my schedule. If my brain is restless, sometimes I take a moment to make a list of tasks that need to be done. Once they are written down and I can see the must do’s versus the would-like-to-get-done.
I look forward to days that I can find a few extra minutes to work out, take a walk, do my nails, sew, take a bath, or scrapbook. Those days are not often and I need to make sure every day I find time to rest. Schedule time within your week to spend extra time on yourself and stick to it. As a mom I spend the majority of my time caring for my family, but I must make time for myself too.
I can’t change my work load, but I can change my attitude and self care.
Emily Coe is a part of our 2016 Creative Team using physical product. She currently resides in Oregon with her husband Bryan and 4 kiddos – 2 boys and 2 girls!