good life with shay cochrane
Part of cultivating a good life is savoring seasons of slow instead of filling them with to-dos.
There’s a lot of buzz these days about summer bucket lists and family goals while the kids are out of school. Don’t get me wrong, I think there is something to be said about having a plan that helps you do the things that you really want to do (with your kids or otherwise) over the summer.
But I’m going to stick my neck out there and say that I also sense among our generation of young moms a new burden being sewn into the fabric of summer break — this idea that we need to strive to “summer well” with our kids.
All of a sudden (according to social media) we need to have it mapped out, to execute each day well, to have enough planned to keep everyone happy, to make sure we are “doing what matters,” and redeeming the time, and checking off lists of awesome activities to prove, come August, that we had fun and somehow quantify that summer was a success. But talk to a mom or grandmother who raised little children 30, 40, or 50 years ago and try to explain to her the way we approach summer with all of its checklists and “make-sures” and you will likely get a gentle laugh and a very different perspective.
Have we taken what was meant to be a gift of a short season of rest, margin, and slow living and filled it in a way that turns it into another way to measure how we are performing as moms?
I don’t have the answers. I’m sitting in that tension this summer (preferably in a bathing suit). I’m challenging my own propensities as we begin to celebrate the summer in our home and trying to keep my to-do list tendencies at bay. I will tell you what’s at the top of my list though – just plain enjoying my kids more, not always being in a rush, and relishing in the extra time to do the little things that get pushed out of our busy school-year calendars. I’m trying to allow for mess and boredom and empty time and just being present and savoring the gift of a season of slow without trying to turn it into another thing to accomplish well.
Here’s to a good ol’ fashion slow summer. Do you feel this tension / burden entering into summer?
Photo Credit: Gina Zeidler
A note from Becky
I’ve been admiring Shay Cochrane through Instagram for a while now and her sharing is not only visually refreshing (she’s a photographer), but she’s just one of those people with a heart of gold, and you can just TELL. So while we haven’t actually met in person or exchanged that hug that I hope will happen someday, I can say that I love Shay. She is Christlike. She does so much good. She puts so much good out into the world through her work + influence + online sharing. You can tell family comes first for her, and for this and so many reasons, a lot of what Shay shares resonates with me.