good life with marla thrall
Part of cultivating a good life is being conscious of the struggles and unspoken pain that others may be going through.
Two years ago this week, my husband and I rolled the dice on the biggest gamble of our life. After years of infertility, thousands of dollars in medical bills, and countless tears, we had two perfect embryos transferred after a painful IVF procedure. Ten days later, we learned the procedure had worked and we were blessed with our amazing little Teddy early last year.
This will be my second Mother’s Day and it’s honestly still a day full of emotion for me. I feel fragile and am extra aware of the unspoken pain couples in my life may be feeling. I wish that infertility was a thing of the past and that no one I knew struggled with it. In reality, one in four couples will experience some kind of infertility. Most never openly speak of their pain.
When I was deep in the trenches of infertility, I skipped baby showers. I dreaded holidays and side stepped around questions about when we would be having children. The longer we were married, the harder it became. I’ve been asked extremely personal questions from complete strangers about my reproductive plans in the grocery store, at church, and even in the hair salon. Some days, I laughed off the questions. Others I ended up biting my tongue until I was back in the safety of my home and could cry without embarrassment.
I know the vast majority of people would never want to hurt their loved ones. Remember, you never truly know what may be going on behind closed doors. Please keep the well intentioned questions to yourself.
If you are currently longing for a baby, please know that you aren’t alone. You are loved. You are important and you deserve support. Don’t be afraid to reach out to others. Often a hug and a shoulder to cry on make all the difference.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the fabulous women out there. It doesn’t matter if you’ve grown a child in your womb or in your heart, if you’re an auntie or a teacher, if you have ten kids at home or three in heaven, you deserve all the praises today.
Marla is a part of our Creative Team using the digital product. She currently resides in Oklahoma and her family now consists of her farmer husband, Colby, and her baby boy, Teddy. She also has a ten-pound Maltipoo named Milo and a fifteen-pound kitty named Cricket.