good life with kayla davies
Part of cultivating a good life is understanding that we were never meant to navigate life’s challenges on our own.
As I sit here on doctor-prescribed bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy, with the imminent likelihood that I will deliver another premature baby, I can’t help but think that I’m not as worried or stressed as I probably should be. The reason, I think, comes back to the fact that 1) I have such an incredible support system with friends and family showing up in a huge way to help me and 2) my faith that between God and modern medicine, things will work out. This new twist in my story, just one of several bumps on my journey through life, reminds me that we were never meant to handle life’s difficulties on our own. I know that for me personally when I don’t ask for and accept help from others and God, my own life challenges are so much more difficult, and sometimes impossible, to navigate all by myself.
Brené Brown puts it so beautifully:
“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on ‘going it alone.’ Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into ‘those who offer help’ and ‘those who need help.’ The truth is that we are both.”
Whether your particular hurdle is the death of a loved one, health challenges, loneliness, mental illness, unemployment, abuse, dealing with the challenges of single parenthood, addiction, being betrayed, your own personal faith crisis, or difficulties with family, just to name a few, you were never meant to deal with it all on your own. Connection with others is not just important for healing and healthy coping, but it’s a vital part of the human experience. I have never once regretted opening up to others and asking for help, even though it is so, so hard and often scary. Being vulnerable and humble about our weaknesses and struggles can change lives. I’ve seen it. Reach out; it’s so worth it.
Kayla Davies is part of our Creative Team using Digital Project Life®. She resides in Texas with her husband and son with one more on the way!