good life by vicki allgaier
Part of cultivating a good life is learning to put others’ needs before your own.
MOTHERHOOD. That is a loaded word. It can mean so many different things to every mother you talk to. When I was asked to share my feelings about this very special day, my mind started racing. I recognize that motherhood may be a difficult thing for some women for various reasons. In trying to address this sometimes tender topic, my mind went to several personal things.
First, I think about my own mother. I am grateful for her. I lost my mother in December 1999, just three short weeks before Christmas. That was a difficult time. My mother was a very creative mom — making ALL of my clothes when I was growing up. She taught me to cook, not with recipes but by watching what ingredients she would put in a bowl and doing the “taste test” to see if anything more needed to be added. A pinch of this, a pinch of that — you know! She was a hard worker both in our home and in her full-time job outside of our home. She loved me and my two brothers very much. She loved life. She loved her grandchildren. I could go on and on.
Secondly, I think of my own six children who call me Mother. I count it a huge blessing that I have such wonderful children. They have taught me so much as a mother. I think of all the activity that went on in our home with six active children — five sons and one daughter. There were never, EVER dull days around our home. Was it hard? Absolutely. Would I do it any differently if I had it to do over again? Absolutely NOT. Part of being on this earth is to learn and grow. I feel motherhood helped me do that.
I am still learning and growing with our children even though our children are now mature adults with their own families. Now just a little personal note about losing a child. It is NOT easy. It is a mother’s worst nightmare (and a father’s, too). It is not something we ever think will happen because our children are supposed to live well after we are gone from this life. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of our wonderful son who passed away 2 ½ years ago. But I find great peace and comfort in the faith I have in my Savior, Jesus Christ. I know that we will be able to see our son again someday and that our family can be together forever. That gives me peace and comfort and hope in this life.
Note from Becky
Repeating our guests for the Good Life series is not what we do around here, but my mom? Even though she already did a fantastic post a while back, we invited her to share some thoughts again because, you know, it’s Mothers Day! I kinda won the mom lottery and I’m so thankful I’ve been blessed with so many years of her influence in my life. The first word that comes to my mind when I think of my mom is service. The woman is constantly serving others. In our family, of course, but also what feels like a billion other people. This world is a better place from my mom’s contribution.