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good life by rhonda steed

Part of cultivating a good life is looking for the joy in every situation.

About a year ago I found myself constantly noticing what my son, Eli, did wrong instead of what he did right. He was constantly into things (like spraying the hose in the garage to wash the van, trying to back the van out of the garage, or rubbing toothpaste all over the couches in the living room.) I felt like I was constantly getting after him. I was focusing all my frustration on him. I pondered and prayed about how to have a better attitude about him and all his escapades.

It was through my pondering and prayers that I realized he brought a lot of joy into our home. He says some of the funniest stuff. His wit is so quick. His mind is constantly going. So I started writing down the funny things he said and did. I started sharing it with other people. I even made a Project Life® mini album filled with funny things he has said. Purposefully looking for the humor in what he says and does has changed our relationship. It’s easier for me to let him be himself. We laugh together more often and live together more easily.

Life is filled with lots of small moments – funny ones, serious ones, devastating ones, sad ones, and on and on. We are all going to experience them and live through them. We might as well enjoy as many of them as we can. As Marjorie Pay Hinckley said, “The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache.”

A few nights ago in the middle of the night, Eli appeared by my bed. He leaned over onto the bed really close to me and announced loudly, “Well, I’m wondering what else there is to DO besides sleeping.” I could have raised my voice at him. I could have threatened punishment. I could have tried to ignore him. Or in the middle of the night instead of sleeping, I could choose to laugh. I chose to laugh.

Note from Becky :: Rhonda’s message today ties in so beautifully with something I do called “We Noticed” journals for each of our children. You can read about that and see pictures here.

Rhonda Steed is a member of our 2015 Creative Team and lives in a small town in Alberta, Canada. She shares her life with her husband and five children ranging in age from 2-12.

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5 Responses

  1. Lisa Geldmacher says:

    Man, I could totally relate with this post. My son (10.5) was exactly like this! Now his younger brother (3) is starting the same tactics. I just have to remember to grab the camera and laugh! Thanks for again making my day!

  2. Christine says:

    Hang in there mom. You brought back memories of my now 19 year old at that age. The negative can be so loud you have to listen hard to hear the good stuff. Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m sure it is a help to some other moms who are feeling like they are at the end of their rope.

  3. Shawna Zervos says:

    It was as if this were posted for me! I have had many of the same struggles with my five-year-old who could not be more different than her older sister. I am going to laugh more and appreciate the comedic joy she brings into our life!

  4. Nicole says:

    This is a great reminder. I am going to send this to my husband so he can see the same reminder I am, and be more mindful of the reactions we choose to do with our two kids.

  5. Sarah says:

    I love this!! My four year old does the SAME thing. I’m learning to look for joy instead of always seeing what she does wrong. She is soo funny! I also starter writing the things she says and our family laughs at the funny things she says. Thank you for the reminder to look for joy in our everyday :)