good life by rhonda steed
Part of cultivating a good life is looking for the joy in every situation.
About a year ago I found myself constantly noticing what my son, Eli, did wrong instead of what he did right. He was constantly into things (like spraying the hose in the garage to wash the van, trying to back the van out of the garage, or rubbing toothpaste all over the couches in the living room.) I felt like I was constantly getting after him. I was focusing all my frustration on him. I pondered and prayed about how to have a better attitude about him and all his escapades.
It was through my pondering and prayers that I realized he brought a lot of joy into our home. He says some of the funniest stuff. His wit is so quick. His mind is constantly going. So I started writing down the funny things he said and did. I started sharing it with other people. I even made a Project Life® mini album filled with funny things he has said. Purposefully looking for the humor in what he says and does has changed our relationship. It’s easier for me to let him be himself. We laugh together more often and live together more easily.
Life is filled with lots of small moments – funny ones, serious ones, devastating ones, sad ones, and on and on. We are all going to experience them and live through them. We might as well enjoy as many of them as we can. As Marjorie Pay Hinckley said, “The only way to get through life is to laugh your way through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache.”
A few nights ago in the middle of the night, Eli appeared by my bed. He leaned over onto the bed really close to me and announced loudly, “Well, I’m wondering what else there is to DO besides sleeping.” I could have raised my voice at him. I could have threatened punishment. I could have tried to ignore him. Or in the middle of the night instead of sleeping, I could choose to laugh. I chose to laugh.
Note from Becky :: Rhonda’s message today ties in so beautifully with something I do called “We Noticed” journals for each of our children. You can read about that and see pictures here.
Rhonda Steed is a member of our 2015 Creative Team and lives in a small town in Alberta, Canada. She shares her life with her husband and five children ranging in age from 2-12.