good life – by lisa bearnson
Part of cultivating a good life is to just say YES as much as possible!
When my children were young, I heard a quote from a wise woman (Marjorie Hinckley) who said: “Whenever possible, say yes; they are only kids once!” I thought long and hard about these words and realized that there are enough people in this world telling my children “no!” I wanted them to have a mom who said “yes!”
Let’s face it–it’s easy to say no. “No, stay inside you’ll get dirty.” ” No, it’ll make a big mess, watch TV instead.” “No, I’m tired so talk to me later.” “No, go to bed–you can finish that in the morning.” I often found myself saying “no” so quickly when it easily could have been a “yes.” So, I changed my way of thinking. I didn’t worry so much about the chaos and clutter and I began saying “yes.”
“Yes, you can eat your ice cream from the scoop.” “Yes, you can make play dough with your friends.” “Yes, you can sing and dance in the rain.” “Yes, you can create a fort in the family room.” “Yes, you can grow your own garden.” “Yes, you can build a tree house.” Much to the surprise of my children, I’ve even been known – on more than one occasion – to change my “no” to a “yes.”
Half of my children no longer live at home (sob), but I’ve realized that this simple three-letter word continues to be their motto. In a recent letter from my 20-year-old son, who has been living in New Zealand for the past 10 months, he writes: “We should live life with a cheerful heart. Only then will life’s victories come. Just keep trying. Keep smiling. Keep saying YES to life! Remember that happiness is not a destination, it’s the journey along the way.”
Great food for thought. I’m off to eat some ice cream straight from the carton using the scoop as my spoon.
Photo by Robin Johnson
Note from Becky
Lisa Bearnson was my first personal example – and will always be one of my greatest examples – of balancing the role of being a wife & mother, and someone willing to continually serve, and an entrepreneur. No one can truly “do it all.” Lisa would never pretend to “do it all” … but she has been blessed with a wonderful energy that has allowed her to be pretty remarkable in all the most important aspects of her life.
I have respected and adored Lisa from the very first time we met. She had enough faith in me to make me a part of the Creating Keepsakes team – and the magazine’s first Creative Editor – when I was just 20 years old. I will always be thankful to her for that journey which obviously led to becoming an entrepreneur myself. If you missed that video I shared back in December, check out my “Tribute to Creating Keepsakes” post. Lisa certainly is a shining example of someone who cultivates a good life – and this has blessed the lives of so many. Mine included.