good life – by lara casey
Part of cultivating a good life is… surrendering.
It seems so contrary to what we are often told about creating a life of meaning. Well-meaning, wise friends encourage us to work hard and keep moving. But what if the most rewarding “work” was something unexpected. What if letting go was the key to cultivating what matters?
I’ve seen this play out so clearly in my own life. After I gave birth to our daughter, Grace, I had to completely let go of my time. My sleep wasn’t in my control anymore. My schedule was not just about me and my own needs. My everything was redirected to another little life. And, sleepless nights and all, it was worth it. My life is a thousand times richer because of what the challenges continue to teach me. Surrendering my old life for this one has been the best gift.
In my marriage, I’ve had my fair share of overly-opinionated moments — times I totally could have let Ari make the final choice and I would have been perfectly happy either way. I fight for control just to do it. And you know what? I lose an opportunity to practice real love. Real love isn’t about us; it’s about humbling ourselves and putting another first. When I surrender my pride, our marriage flourishes. Surrendering my pride is worth it. Cultivating our marriage makes us stronger for everyone around us.
I work in an office with seven other wildly talented, creative, smart women. We make a lot of decisions every day together and we don’t always have the same opinions. Much of what we do each day has to do with creativity — deciding which image would be best with a magazine spread, what words best describe a love story — you Project Lifers know what I mean : ) These decisions can carry with them strong emotions and everyone brings to the table unique life experiences that shape their thoughts. In the times I don’t have my best listening ears on and find myself trying to control decisions, I miss out on potentially life-changing ideas. Letting go of my ways in favor of listening is worth it. It helps us all do our best work for our ultimate mission — forever love.
Surrendering has the potential to be the most pivotal choice we make in cultivating a good life. Whatever it is, let it go and just watch what happens. Life might surprise you in the very best ways.
Note from Becky
Lara and I haven’t had the chance to actually meet in person (yet) but I consider us “fast friends” in a way. Have you heard of Southern Weddings Magazine? Yep, she’s the heart & soul behind that awesome publication. You have to check out their short video that will help you feel like you know these girls. So cool. And I have to say that I totally agree with Lara’s thoughts today. I’m feeling motivated to surrender even more in my life.