good life with azzari jarrett
Part of cultivating a good life is fostering love between your children.
I have always wanted a sister. As an only child, I remember having the full attention of my parents, but that never stopped me from wishing I had a sibling.
My parents and I did everything together. It was always the 3 of us. I tagged along on anniversary dates. I always sat between them at the movies and held the popcorn. When my mom had conferences out of town, we all went. My parents attended each and every one of my basketball games and track meets. My mom likes to joke that they never spent the night alone in a hotel room until I left for college.
I distinctly remember praying with my mom for a sister when I was 5 years old. It’s only now I realize that God would answer my prayer in His own time. Instead of having a sister, I am now the mother of sisters – three girls. And it is such an honor to watch them grow and interact with one another and find their own unique place in our family.
As a mother of sisters, I have an idea of what sisterhood should be. In our home, sharing a bedroom is mandatory. When they were young, I dressed them alike. Daily arguments always lead to apologies and hugs. I tell them they are best friends – even though, right now, I know they are not. I am trying to plant the seeds of sisterhood, to instill in them a love for one another that will only get deeper with time.
Nothing hurts me more than when they argue. I have never had to share a room, share my toys or my personal space, or compete for my parents’ attention. And in those situations, I am not quite sure what to do. How do I explain to them that friends will come and go, but they will be in each other’s lives forever? How do I explain how deeply I wanted to have a sister and that one day they will be thankful to have one another?
When strangers see me out with all of our girls, I almost always get a reaction.
“Three weddings will be expensive!”
“Just wait until they are teenagers!”
“You have to comb three heads of hair every morning?”
But little do they know that I look forward to all of this because having a sister is what I so desperately wanted growing up. Yes, I comb their hair every morning. And yes, eventually they will be teenagers. And I look forward to each and every wedding.
Inevitably, someone will express to me that she is one of three girls, and I always make it a point to ask if they are close. And if so, what her mother did to foster that relationship so I can take notes. And the answer is almost always “Now we are, but we didn’t get along as kids.”
I would like to think that what I’m doing is working. But I’m not sure if all of my feeble attempts are even needed…that in spite of me, they will still grow up to be best friends. And that one day they will laugh over coffee at all of the ridiculous things I made them do in the name of sisterhood.
Part of cultivating a good life is fostering love between your children. I will consider my job a success if my girls grow up to be strong, confident women who love one another and are involved in each other’s lives.
Azzari Jarrett is a part of our 2016 Creative Team using physical product. She currently resides in Atlanta, GA with her husband and three beautiful daughters.